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Be kind always~ :)
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Hey friend. I'm available to lend a listening ear and you can text me right away. I will reply soon and I appreciate you for reaching out.

Your feelings and thoughts are valid. I just want to say how amazing you are in so many ways you might not even know. Sending healing vjviejf to your way.

I am also a Quality Listening Program Academy Mentor so if you are a Qlp trainee and need some help related to Qlp, feel free to approach me. I am always more than happy to help. Also Qlp is soo amazing and lovely! If you are interested in enhancing your listening skills, do check Qlp out and consider joining us.


I would absolutely love to give you the moon, but it's not mine to give,

I'd plant flowers on your pillow, but they'd rather live and thrive.

I'd learn to speak to birds, have them sing your favorite tune,

But bird language isn't on Duolingo, and my tongue's a bit too soon.

I'd break off a piece of star to keep your nights bright,

But my hands are just flesh, can't reach that height.

So, I give you my heart, it resides within me,

The greatest gift I offer, no key will you need.

-Christi Steyn


when you can't look in the bright side, i will sit with you in the dark

-unknown



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Helping someone with a very different worldview
Bipolar, Schizophrenia & Psychosis Support / by calmingcomfortero
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Hi everyone, I have always wondered on how to support people with very different beliefs whether they are in a cult or having psychosis, or having severe anxiety that alters reality so I did some readings. I would like to share with everyone my findings.  The underrated approach Avoid mirroring the person’s own body language. It can make them even more paranoid because sometimes it comes off as a personal attack when they are already nervous or defensive. The more aggressive they are, the more you have to remain calm as much as possible to ground them. Don't overreact too. This will create a comforting presence. Speak simply and clearly to the point so they don't get the wrong idea as they are constantly reading between the lines. If they refuse help, allow them space and don't provoke them. Try not to do things that cause more suspicions like whispering or being very shocked around them. General Avoid stigmatizing, mocking, patronizing or criticizing. Do focus on understanding. Ideal Interaction Do be a safe and neutral person for them to confide. This will help them feel less alone. Listen to them patiently without confronting nor confirming their beliefs. Focus on their emotions and empathize. I have read that specialists said confronting with their beliefs can come across as being against them unknowingly. The strong, fundamentally different worldview they have can't be broken easily. I understand there might be frustrations when they are talking about things that seems bizarre. Yet, It's not intentional because they can't see the bigger picture. I seek everyone's help to make the world an inclusive and non-threatening place. Thanks for reading.
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About Forgiveness
General Support / by calmingcomfortero
Last post
 February 10th
...See more Hii. I would like to share with everyone the art of forgiveness and detatchment. It's something I'm still learning but I thought it's truly a precious skill—acknowledging without reacting. It's also about not letting situations define you. Listening really encouraged me to put myself in others' shoes frequently. We are human so if it's something small that you wish to point out, notice if it points out the ugly in others. If so, withheld opinions and move on. It would save you and others from a lot of conflicts from accidentally hurting someone with words.  I like to think that very bad tempered people are suffering so imagining how distressed and exhausted they are already, to the point they can't manage their feelings and actions well, it's best to disengage and not argue with them nor take revenge since they have already suffered so much. If a person deeply hurt you, it's really hard to forgive. I understand life just seems different than ever and it's hard to recover from it. However, forgiveness is a choice to acknowledge someone really hurt you and let go of the pain. Start noticing the little positive things in life and place less importance to the hurt because in life there is sooo much more to explore. It's easier said than done. I believe it's truly an extraordinary skill to accept the unacceptable ultimately transcending boundaries! It's not an easy skill to master. What do you think?
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Draw Up a Crisis Plan w Me
Anxiety Support / by calmingcomfortero
Last post
 November 3rd, 2024
...See more Hii everyone. Life is ideally fulfilling and manageable. Sometimes when life gets tough, overwhelming causing chronic anxiety which can turn into depression and even crises. Today, let's make a crisis plan because crises can happen unexpectedly so if there a plan to refer to, we might be able to sail through the crisis safe and smoothly.  Crisis template: -Kind words to calm and console -Suggested helpful actions to ease the pain -Backup plan  (Calling crisis helplines, approaching a&e) -Caveat of what's not recommended -More kind words (Disclaimer: this is not a sufficient substitute for medical help and only meant to only be helpful) Hey thought it would be nice to share with you my crisis plan for reference: I understand you are feeling unbearable okay? A part of you doesn’t want to *** that’s why you are here. I am glad you are here. Promise to be safe, lovely?🫂🤝🩷🩷 Now, let’s help relieve some of your pain okay?🩷 Move out of this space to go interact with others. 🌇🦋💐Take a nap or bathe? Skincare routine? Take a walk? Positive affirmations? You can’t stay in this place overthinking again. I know you well. It’s not healthy. Do something relaxing and makes you happy. 🤗Remind yourself of the good and fun things in life. Skip if not If you still feel unbearable, call trusted crisis helplines esp sos. Take sufficient breaks if you are still too overwhelmed.🤞 Last resort If you show persistent inability to regulate at all or be rational, please give chance for someone to help you stay alive. Go to hospital ask to stay for a few days and they might recommend medicine and lots of therapy to stabilize you. Chances are you have an underlying mental condition. 🫶🫶 Last resort impt info Don't go to psychiatric hospital unless you really have no choice because they have a hold on you and many nurses already suffer from caregiver fatigue and it's very strict there. Hold on even it's by a thread. Try to maintain your sanity you can cry but please don't scream or hit. People will start to treat you like a toddler and I believe it's very humiliating. 🤜 Please give yourself a bit of dignity while you seek help. I understand your immense suffering but you need to be treated as age appropriate as a teen/adult that must be respected while seeking for help. You need to try to maintain the peace in the hospital for others who need it. It's can get expensive but you might be able to get insurance. You need to understand it's an acute crisis so costs can go up. You have a life to live. At least hospital will keep you contained and safe with comfy treatment.  You cannot persistently show that you can't control yourself at all. I hope you allow yourself a chance to continue living a life. Things will get better. Don't give up. 🙆‍♀️🙋‍♀️💪 P.S. Hopefully you will feel better soon. There’s light at the end of the tunnel, rainbow after the rain. 🩷 You need to fight to see another beautiful day. Fight to see sunlight, fight to see your loved ones. Fight to enjoy the beauty of food. Fight to do something you like more! 💋🧖‍♀️💅💆‍♀️💇‍♀️Your life hasn't ended yet. You are still alive! You need to celebrate that you are alive. 🏃‍♀️💁‍♀️You have to prove to society that you are strong to live! You will be respected. You will be an inspiration. You will be more powerful.😁🤗🤗🤗😌
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Suggestion to Overcome Anxiety
Anxiety Support / by calmingcomfortero
Last post
 September 23rd, 2024
...See more Have you ever felt your heart racing or your stomach hurting and you can’t focus at all because stressful thoughts and images were flashing through your mind? Anxiety is an imaginary or excessive fear which impairs our functioning. When we worry, it can get to the point of overwhelm. I can only imagine how exhausting it can get. Then, somehow it still escalates. What could get worse? Therefore, I would like to share about an insight I have gained from a book which is widely recommended. The book is named Atomic Habits. They mentioned we are often anxious because the situation we are facing is too intimidating and undesirable so I think one way to manage anxiety levels is to reframe and actively alter a situation to make it slightly more convenient and desirable, reducing anxiety. There is hope. Let’s include elements we look forward to in ‘the seemingly, endlessly dreadful scenario’. Some ideas: Make it fun Make it safe and comfortable Take regular breaks Break down into manageable parts Question: What are some of your specific healthy coping mechanisms for anxiety? Take your time to ponder about possible and used coping strategies. Thanks for reading. Hope it helps.💛
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New Forum Supporter
Anxiety Support / by calmingcomfortero
Last post
 August 17th, 2024
...See more Hello, I am @calmingcomfortero and the anxiety support’s new forum supporter. I am happy to support the anxiety forum. You might find me replying and sometimes lurking in the anxiety forum. Check in: How are you feeling? And how has everything been so far? It’s Friday!
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