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Self-Harm Awareness Week: A Letter of Self-Kindness
by ASilentObserver
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16 hours ago
...See more Hello everyone,  This week, from March 6th to 10th, we are dedicating efforts to raise awareness about self-harm [https://www.7cups.com/forum/selfharm/WelcomesIntroductionsIcebreakers_253/SelfHarmAwarenessWeekHealingThroughSelfCompassionConnectionMarch6th10th_348138/]and foster a safe, supportive space for healing. Our theme, "Healing Through Self-Compassion & Connection," explores the importance of understanding, empathy, and practical tools for navigating difficult emotions. This exercise is part of it, and I hope you all try it.  We invite you to participate in a meaningful exercise: A Letter of Self-Kindness.  It is your safe space to express *any* feelings you have, whether positive, negative, or somewhere in between and focus on being kinder to yourself in your words. Please know there are no rules here.  You need to be honest, be vulnerable, and be you.  It is more about connecting with yourself and fostering a more mindful and kind relationship with yourself. You can do it in two ways:  1. Take a piece of paper and pen and write a letter to yourself. And let us know if you did it here in this thread and how it makes you feel.  2. If you are comfortable sharing your letter with us, you can share it here in this thread, and we all can reflect and further discuss it as you feel comfortable.   3. Anyone can do this exercise, and it is not limited to the ones who struggle with SH.  Some tips to get started * Address Yourself with Compassion: Begin your letter with a gentle and kind address, such as "Dear [Your Name]," or "To My Heart," or "To the Part of Me That Needs Kindness." * Start by acknowledging the challenges you have faced. You might write something like: "I know you've been going through a tough time," or "I see the pain you're carrying." * Write words of encouragement and support to yourself. Remind yourself that you are worthy of kindness and compassion. Whether you choose to share it with us or keep it private is entirely up to you.  We are simply here to encourage and support you on this journey of self-kindness and acceptance. Who's ready to write their letter?  Let's begin
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Self-Harm Awareness Week: Healing Through Self-Compassion & Connection (March 6th - 10th) 🧡🧡
by ASilentObserver
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21 hours ago
...See more Hello everyone, This week, from March 6th to 10th, we are dedicating efforts to raise awareness about self-harm and foster a safe, supportive space for healing. Our theme, "Healing Through Self-Compassion & Connection," explores the importance of understanding, empathy, and practical tools for navigating difficult emotions. What to expect during the event week: - SH Support Circle Sessions: Join our inclusive support circle sessions, which are a safe space to share experiences, feel empowered, and find support. - Debunking Myths & Challenging Misconceptions: We'll be addressing common myths and misconceptions surrounding self-harm, promoting accurate information and reducing stigma. Click here to check forum discussion. [https://www.7cups.com/forum/selfharm/General_2451/DebunkingMythsChallengingMisconceptionsSelfHarm_348168/] - Understanding Coping Mechanisms: We'll emphasize that self-harm is often a coping mechanism, not attention-seeking, and explore healthier alternatives. Click here to read! [https://www.7cups.com/forum/selfharm/General_2451/UnderstandingCopingMechanismsBeyondSelfHarm_348271/]  - "How Can I Be Kinder to Myself?" A Journaling Activity: Engage in guided journaling to cultivate self-compassion and explore ways to nurture your well-being. Click here to find tips and get started!  [https://www.7cups.com/forum/selfharm/General_2451/SelfHarmAwarenessWeekALetterofSelfKindness_348268/] - Skills for Healing: We'll also explore and check in some practical skills, including distress tolerance and emotional regulation, to help manage difficult emotions and build resilience. Why You Should Join: Self-harm is a complex issue that requires understanding and compassion. By raising awareness, challenging misconceptions, and providing support, we can continue to build a community where individuals feel safe to seek help and heal. How to Participate: - Join our SH Support Circle Sessions in the Self Harm Recovery Group Chat. - Engage with our forum discussions and activities to share your experiences, insights, or encouragement to others. - Share this announcement to raise awareness and support those who may be struggling. Let's work together to promote and foster understanding, empathy, and support.
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Understanding Coping Mechanisms: Beyond Self-Harm
by ASilentObserver
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Saturday
...See more Hello everyone,  As life throws curveballs, we all develop ways to navigate stress, pain, and difficult emotions. We know them as coping mechanisms. While some can be healthy, others can be destructive, like self-harm. Please understand that self-harm is often an unhealthy coping mechanism, not a cry for attention. It is a sign of deep emotional distress and requires empathy, support, and understanding instead of judgment. This post is part of Self-Harm Awareness Week: Healing Through Self-Compassion & Connection [https://www.7cups.com/forum/selfharm/WelcomesIntroductionsIcebreakers_253/SelfHarmAwarenessWeekHealingThroughSelfCompassionConnectionMarch6th10th_348138/]. SH is Not About Attention There is a misconception that self-harm is attention-seeking behavior. That is untrue, harmful, and inaccurate. All who struggle with self-harm often experience shame and guilt, which make them hide their behaviors. The act itself is a personal struggle and not a public display. So when someone dismisses it as attention-seeking behavior, that discourages them from reaching out and seeking help. It is not typically about seeking attention but rather about managing intense emotional pain. The common reasons for SH: * SH may provide a temporary release from overwhelming emotions like anger, sadness, or anxiety. * In moments of emotional numbness, sh may create a physical sensation that confirms they are still "feeling" something. * In some ways, it is a way to punish oneself for perceived flaws or mistakes. * It may temporarily distract from internal distress.   How can we develop healthier alternatives? SH may provide temporary relief, but it is not a healthy coping mechanism. It may cause injury, emotional distress, and a cycle of self-destructive behavior. Instead, here are some healthier ways to consider:    * Writing down your thoughts and feelings can provide a safe outlet for emotional release.    * Utilizing creative expressions in the form of painting, drawing, music, or other forms of art can help process emotions.    * Trying deep breathing exercises and focusing on slow, deep breaths to calm the nervous system can be helpful.    * Sensory grounding techniques like holding ice, listening to calming music, or using a weighted blanket can provide a sense of grounding.    * Spending time in nature can be connecting with nature and help one feel calm.    * Reaching out and sharing to get emotional support is helpful.  How to support someone who sh? If you know someone who self-harms, please take these steps to comfort and support them * Approach them with empathy and understanding. * Listen attentively and without judgment. Encourage them to share what they can. * Give your support and reassurance to them and a gentle reminder that you believe in them. * Help them figure out healthy coping mechanisms and encourage them to try them more.  When we recognize the underlying emotional pain and offer healthier alternatives, that may help one break their cycle of self-destructive behavior and find healthier paths to healing. 
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ohhh the itching
by basilpilled
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December 10th, 2024
...See more TW!! stay safe!! 👽 i think i have a sorta twisted fascination for wanting to cut myself. i started wayyy back in early middle school and im an adult now., everytime i think im finally over it, i relapse. i can be months clean and suddenly something ticks me off and everything repeats itself. its so lame.. and its also tricky because sh is such a sensitive topic that i really dont talk to anyone about it. like yeah my friends see the scars but i dont expect them to. do anything about it. thats not their job. im not clean rn but ive been fighting really really hard not to make it worse.,. my brother left for college recently and he was the only one in my house i could really talk to, so its been super isolating. isolation is more alone time for me to have these gross fascinations that i just cant stop. anywayy…! apologies for the mindless rambling. hope everyone is doing their best 
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Lost my listener
by inventiveAcai2075
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June 21st, 2024
...See more I was chatting with a wonderful verified listener, he was really wonderful. I talk to him about my selfharm and anxiety, He really helps me calm down when having urges to relapse. But today I noticed his content are removed, it is like losing a friend
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How to move beyond triggers and deal with root poblem
by PaulaUp
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May 9th, 2024
...See more Hi,  Trigger warning,  Just trying to put down my thoughts and feelings....  I used to self harm about 7 years ago for around a year. I don't really remember the details. It was quite bad. It's always stayed with me. Even now when people see my scars and ask about them I don't know how to talk about it. Somehow I managed to stop, I don't really remember how. Then I relapsed twice or so a few years ago but not fully because I couldn't stand the blood anymore. It didn't "help" me like it used to. I had learned other coping skills that stopped me from doing it.  Over the last year or so I guess I felt like SH again. And I guess I did "different forms" (other than cutting) that aren't as noticeable and "less" harmful to the body. But still there was self-loathing and frustration and helplessness. I mostly manage to keep myself from doing anything most of those few times I feel like SH.  But I realised that the triggers have changed, and I don't know how to deal with that. I don't know how to deal with difficult emotions and conflict especially those that involve other people. I've found there is a deeper meaning behind the triggers and that there MUST be a way to resolve them.... I just haven't figured it out yet...
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Weekly Check in 4.14.24
by Kristynsmama
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April 28th, 2024
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admitting you need help
by CPO2000
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March 26th, 2024
...See more i think the hardest thing is admitting you need help. after a while you start to know when your spiralling and when you’ve gone beyond coming back by yourself. but who the *** do you ask? your parents and friends and family say they are there to help but they do not understand. how do you say enough is enough. and how do you get support. waiting lists are long. there’s not many services that offer therapy. something happened to me not so long ago, but no one this there no one knows how much i’m struggling
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🌺 Self-Harm Recovery 🌺 March Check-In 🌺
by CalmWaves3939
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June 21st, 2023
...See more 🌺 Hello, Self-Harm Recovery Community! 🌺 March is already here! 💖 So let's do a lighthearted Check-in! 🌸 🌷How is March going so far? 🌷How have you been feeling? 🌷What is your favourite food? This can be a snack or a full meal. 🌷Would you prefer weekly or monthly check-ins? Weekly will be 1-2 questions each week, or monthly is 3-4 questions each month 😊 I can't wait to hear all your responses! ⭐️🌺 Click here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/SelfHarmRecovery_65/WelcomesIntroductionsIcebreakers_253/AutomatedSHRTaglist_218434/] to be added/removed from the Self-Harm Recovery Tag list!
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New Here
by LightNAtlantic
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April 23rd, 2023
...See more Hi! I’m Lila. I hope to become good friends with people on here…I really need it lol Question: What is one song you’ve heard on the radio and you are now obsessed with?
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Check in
by bbmarko
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February 27th, 2023
...See more Hey how is everyone doing? Any plans for March?
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💜 Self-Harm Recovery 💜 February Check-In 💜
by CalmWaves3939
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February 27th, 2023
...See more Hello, Self-Harm Recovery Community ✨💜 Well! This has been a very short month and has gone by quickly 😮 It feels like the year is flying by already 💜 February is the month for sharing our love for others and/or ourselves. I am thankful to everyone in our community and appreciate you all being there for each other. 💜 This month is a quick check-in for the short month of Feb! 😊 * How are you feeling? * Do you have any plans for March? * What are some things you do that help to cheer you up? * What is your favourite thing about yourself? I hope to read all of your responses! ✨ Click here to be added/removed from our > Automated SHR Taglist - 7 Cups Forum [https://www.7cups.com/forum/SelfHarmRecovery_65/IntroduceYourselfIcebreakers_253/AutomatedSHRTaglist_218434/1/] < @12kirby12 @1Disawsum @1morday @24Help1 @aar10 @Accentus @AdamantlyFree @adaptableSpring9318 @addierus @admaiorasemper @AdunAde @adventurousComputer9958 @aesonnn @aestheticmaddie @Akor1 @AlexanderSpamilton @alicehasalotofissues @allnaturalBerry @amandaa6360 @Ambitiousthinker7178 @anabellamia1189 @anasierra @AndyKade1018 @Annabanana1014 @AnnaMedicineStudent @anomaly2424 @Antisocial5864 @Aphrodite11 @Armelle12 @ArriaAna @Arrow18 @arrowsgoforward @Aryspencer15 @Asher2343 @asheroo92 @Ashtonlou222 @aspirant111 @AstronomySkies @aszalay @AThingCalledPax @AugustaGeorgia @AuroraBorealis12 @Autismaunt14 @avagraco @aviori @awesumturtlesz @axyc @Ayeeitsnotme @babybatman @babydino69 @bandnerd1002 @BandNerd100201 @bear228 @becca111111 @beniba08 @Bethfarmer 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First date and hiding scars (TW)
by sapphiremoon914
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February 24th, 2023
...See more I've liked this guy for a while and recently reached out to him and asked him on a date. I've been so excited to get to know him but the first date is coming up quickly and I started looking in my closet to choose an outfit. I have an adorable red dress with daisies on it and I'd really love to wear it but it is short sleeved and my arms are heavily scarred (healed over but very noticeable) from cutting. I've never really worn long sleeves for the purpose of hiding my scars, but it's been a cold winter where I'm from and I realized he's never seen them. I'm suddenly very anxious about what he'll think or even worse- say. I've always been a "let people think what they wanna think" person but I really want to impress this guy and not freak him out on our first date. I'm so frightened of what impression he might get of me. Of course I'd let him know later on if things work out about my experience with self harm but the first date seems too soon. Or perhaps it'd be a good way of judging whether or not he is insensitive enough to not be worth my time if he says something rude. And on the same note, I really wouldn't want to make him uncomfortable. Good god I'm so torn, someone please tell me what they would do in my place.
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Is writing okay?
by Retr0ne
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February 24th, 2023
...See more I'm a writer and I make some...deep poems. Is it okay to send some here?
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Some healthier coping methods!
by Lovelyperson1
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February 14th, 2023
...See more If anyone wants to share some healthy coping strategies that do not involve self-harm drop them down ! Mine is the ice on wrist strategy

Hello, and welcome to the Self-Harm Recovery Subcommunity! It’s great to have you here, and we are proud of you for making the first brave step in reaching out for support. This is our supportive, safe and friendly environment, and we are glad to have you here 😃. Feel free to direct any questions to the appropriate leader of our community, which you can find at the bottom of the about section. ⭐️

🌟 Feel free to say hello and introduce yourself! Or if you want to just browse for now that is okay too! Take your time. We have several topics in our community such as the goals and success corner, recovery zone, support area and much more! Please use the relevant topic where appropriate so we can keep our community organised🌟

🌟 Please make sure to read through our community guidelines and browse our resources available 🌟

🌟 To join our community leadership team feel free to look through Here for the requirements and apply to join our team 🌟

🌟 Again, thank you for joining our community, and we look forward to seeing your progress on your journey! If you have any questions, please reach out to the relevant leader 😊

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These guidelines are inspired by some communities around 7 cups! This is so we can adapt our little family to accommodate as many different life experiences and situations as possible. We recognize we cannot adapt to every circumstantial rule. However, we have outlined some of the common guidelines needed for our community. ❤️

✪ Please do not share any graphic images or descriptions of self-harm tools!

✪ Please do not mention the name of any tools used for self-harm in any area of the self-harm recovery community.

✪ Names of methods of self-harm are allowed to be shared in the group support room, but where possible please try to exchange a method name for the phrase "self-harm".

✪ When mentioning methods of self-harm or potentially triggering details of another topic in the forums, please put a trigger warning at the top of the post so people are able to click away from the post if they would like to. Additionally, please try to find an appropriate place within our forums to make your post. Certain areas are reserved for specific content, so please consider this when making your post.

✪ Pro-self-harm content will not be tolerated!

✪ Please be respectful to everyone, members and listeners alike.

✪ Remember, everyone's experiences are different. Please do not undermine or invalidate anyone's situation because it is not what most would consider "normal". We are a diverse community and have people from many backgrounds, so please always be respectful!

✪ General kindness, courtesy, and etiquette are heavily appreciated!