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Discussions of the Trauma Sub-Community Announcement Thread
by audienta
Last post
 Wednesday
...See more Hello everyone, In this thread, the discussions of the trauma sub-community will be announced by the hosts 24 hours in advance. After a session has happened, I'll remove the post so that the thread stays nice and clean. If you want to be tagged for future discussions, please comment or pm me and I'll add you to the list. You can find the schedule of the discussions here (clickable) [https://www.7cups.com/forum/TraumaticExperiencesCommunity_60/DissociationRelatedDisorders_2335/ScheduleDiscussionsaboutDissociativeDisorders_302437/]. If you need to convert the time into your time zone, click here (clickable) [https://rarelycharlie.github.io/7cupstime]. Please let me know if you have any questions! Take care, audienta (lastly updated: 6/13/2023)
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Schedule: Discussions of the Trauma Sub-Community
by audienta
Last post
 February 26th
...See more Hello everyone, The Trauma Sub-Community Discussion Team currently hosts eight discussions per week: * Monday, 9 AM/11AM ET (changing the time every other week): Guided Support Chat about DID/OSDD-1 (adults), hosted by InsightfulPhoenix * Monday, 1 PM ET: Open Support Chat about Trauma (teens), hosted by audienta * Tuesday, 1 PM ET: Open Support Chat about all Dissociative Disorders (adults), hosted by InsightfulPhoenix * Wednesday, 7 PM ET: Open Support Chat about all Dissociative Disorders (teens), hosted by WillingToHelpU * Wednesday, 1 PM ET: DID/OSDD-1 Safety and Stabilisation Group (adults), hosted by mytwistedsoul * Friday, 7 PM ET: Guided Support Chat about Trauma (adults), hosted by WillingToHelpU * Sunday, 10 AM ET: Guided Support Chat about Trauma (teens), hosted by Kieran000 * Sunday, 3 PM ET: Open Support Chat about Trauma (adults), hosted by InsightfulPhoenix Here's the schedule with the currently planned discussions for the coming month. [https://docs.google.com/document/d/1bXxPIbmbcSJ9aJO92oDi3FWiQc9WC9WLs4Fsl8QZ_Qw/edit] The discussions will be announced the day before they happen by the host who will lead the chat in this thread [https://www.7cups.com/forum/TraumaticExperiencesCommunity_60/DissociationRelatedDisorders_2335/DiscussionsonDissociativeDisordersAnnouncementPosts_303372/]. If you want to be tagged for them, please leave a comment below. And if you need to convert the time into your time zone, click here [https://rarelycharlie.github.io/7cupstime]. The discussions take place in the trauma support room [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=k2tqdHaUk5qdlLBpiYbDlQ%21%21]. To access this room, you need to have either the Chief Chat or the First Post plus the Compassion Hero badge. You can find more information on that here. [https://www.7cups.com/forum/GroupSupport_168/CommunityManagersOffice_2008/NewCriteriaUpdatesGroupChatsEasierToAccessNow_280544/] The trauma support room is only open on Weekends and during the discussions. In addition to the above, there are Listener Learning Discussions on Dissociative Disorders. You can find the schedules here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/listenerjourney/ListenerLearningDiscussions_1896/]. ------------------------- If you want to become a host for these discussions, please fill in this [https://forms.gle/nijWmDzws6WYfrL76] [https://forms.gle/nijWmDzws6WYfrL76]form [https://forms.gle/nijWmDzws6WYfrL76]. Also, you need to make sure that you can access the trauma support room (info here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/GroupSupport_168/CommunityManagersOffice_2008/NewCriteriaUpdatesGroupChatsEasierToAccessNow_280544/]). Please comment under this post if you want to be tagged for future discussions. Also, my PMs are open if you have any suggestions, ideas, or questions. Take care, audienta (last updated: 12/04/2024)
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Trauma Support Automated Taglist
by CaringBrit
Last post
 February 23rd
...See more This thread controls an auto-updating taglist. To see the current list, go to Trauma Support Community [https://rarelycharlie.github.io/taglist?23eb3b680028ac32c998125af8d8f262]. <<<< checkin posters refer to this click then copy for taglist its instant updated To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button above and write the exact words Please add me. To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button above and write the exact words, Please remove me. highlighting keywords as these are needed no forms to fill in just type to this thread . dont need to copy the colouring though just the keywords highlight is so they stand out is all. New taglist as of August 9th 2024 by audienta @0Some0where0I0BELONG0 @13irth @adaptableLake3534 @adequatelyInadequate @adventurousAcres9344 @adventurousBranch3786 @AffyAvo @AguaNector6700 @allYou @Amelia2324 @amiableBunny4016 @AshFox2007 @AstronomySkies @audienta @Avaray @BeautifulCreation999 @BeenAKiwi @bela12345 @BillyJoeBobb @blueScarf9326 @bouncyBreeze44 @BraveAdventurer @BrokenDreamsPalace @BrokenMedic @bubblegumPuppy68 @bumblebee2307 @Bunnylovesyou @CalmRosebud @CaptainTrev @carefulKitten1131 @CaringBrit @charmingSky5972 @Chrissy911666 @Claireolomi @clare7199 @Colorfulcatsofhope @communicativePond1728 @communicativeYard2325 @conicha @CoolBeans29 @coolvibes @Crakyz @creativeStrings1531 @crimsonLime6525 @crxxtvfl0w @cueball @cyanPlatypus6370 @DaniAleah156 @Dannc7c @DarkGalaxy55555 @daydreammemories @Deadtiredperson175 @delicatepunk @depressedsatellite1452 @diligentDime8651 @DinaElwy @domesticEmerald50s @Eitas @emotional232023 @emotionalTalker2260 @emylly @FallenAngel0128 @Feathersfall @FigureskatingEquestrian @Fireskye13 @Fleggles @fluien @forcefulFriend4768 @Gagaintheroom @gentleLand5245 @Ghxstie @goldenSpruce1512 @Grandmaof10 @Greenchoice1 @gregariousBeing5071 @Grits1910 @helpfulLion92 @hillsideblues @honestpanda81 @HonestWarrior6624 @HopeNChayil @HumanPersonThingy @Iamwhoiamwhoami @IceCream4IceCream @iloveyouxx @IndigoWhisper @InfinityandBeyond23 @inventiveOrange1313 @Itisbailey @jcqlinshots @Journey144 @jovialButterfly6752 @jr50 @Judy7 @jupitermatilde @JustSmilingThruHell @Kekesea11 @Kickiree @Kimmkimm @kindTurtle3738 @kittydragon771 @Kunoichi91Warrior @LightofWorld @LillithHolly @Lilly28 @lilmissjaded @lionsaether @littleHuman9247 @littleOtter1342 @LordFireStorm71 @lovehummingbirdsCindy @LovelyForever6990 @LovelyOrangeJuice @LoveMyMoonflowers @lowkeyem1001 @Lubo123 @Luchelle @lyricalAngel70 @Marigold357 @maya6548 @mcooper7583 @Meenagirl @Mellietronx @mish3l @MistyMagic @mkaitx @Mooglethefluffy @MunchieTaters @MVObserver @mytwistedsoul @navyMango2804 @neatBlueberry3608 @neonDog3649 @neonOwl3442 @NevaehRose @Nolanhm @NoneTheWiser @nonethewiser @notmyselftoday @Novelwriter @npos25 @oceancruiser48 @Oceanwaves16 @OffDutySeraph @OneErased @OneWithSugar @ottersngiggles @parkey @Parvlakin @PatienceImpatiens @pencilmarks @Petrichor2000 @Philowl @Pidgeymon @PinkestOctopus @politeBunny7572 @practicalIdeal2007 @purpleWheel873 @QuietLotus @rainbow3140 @Randomperson453 @RansviewTheWizard @raspberry563 @ReallyRuth @Rebekahwriter13 @Redhawk6547 @Redirecting @redmark @reliablePeach8464 @Rosa9570 @SafeSpace1776 @SapphireSoul @SarahAlaina15 @scarletPear1945 @selfdisciplinedTiger5523 @sensitiveShade5337 @ShapeshiftSystem @shellofashell @shiningDay80 @Silverviolets @sincereThinker3571 @sleepingd0gg0 @SmileSravani @SnippyHam @sofiamartino18 @SoftForestHSP77 @SoulSupporter102 @StarlightSystemDID @stickercollection @Storyhymns1234 @straightforwardSkies7721 @sugarcookies7 @Summer899 @SynSavory @Taylorz27 @tealOak8933 @teenytinyturtle @The0Vetoed0System @TheAutumnWitch @TheFisherKing @ThisIsLogan @ThreadbareThinker @Tinywhisper11 @TransparentPuzzle @turquoiseHemlock900 @Turtlegrrrl8 @u1146 @underapinetree @Understandingempath @UndomesticGoddess @unique73 @uniqueDaisy @veeceebee @Verysadperson101 @Vivikun9 @WarriorHeartsSystem @weepingwillow5489 @WelcomeToChat @wontwakewontsleep @WorkingitThrough2 @Worrior22Warrior @Writersworld @WriteToHeal42 @xandia @xmoonsie16x0
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From Shadows to Sunshine: Finding Forgiveness and Healing
by Remina
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 4 hours ago
...See more Hello Trauma Community. I am Remina. I want to talk about the importance of forgiving yourself after experiencing trauma. I have personally dealt with shame and such feelings, and know that as a trauma survivor, it is not so uncommon to deal with misplaced blame and guilt, even though trauma is never our fault. Forgiving ourselves is a dynamic step towards healing and recovering your peace. I know it seems contradictory and like it doesn't make sense but forgiveness after trauma can be the fundamental first step needed in the journey. Traumatically impacted individuals often wrestle with feelings of guilt and shame, making this self-forgiveness a key component in recovering. Self-forgiveness involves understanding and addressing the deep-seated self-blame and negative emotions that arise from traumatic experiences. The path towards forgiveness is unique to you as it is personal and can be challenging. The first step is having the courage to acknowledge and sit with your pain, truly feel it, and understand the roots of your pain. I am going to share some helpful resources I found when I was looking up this topic, but I am also going to summarize some steps that might help with your journey before sharing these resources.  The first step is to acknowledge your feelings. It is beneficial to recognize and accept your emotions, no matter how painful they may be. It is okay to feel hurt, angry, or sad. These emotions are a natural part of the healing process. The next step is to take time to try to understand the trauma you have experienced. Take the time to reflect on the events and how the events affected you. This step can help you gain insight into your reactions and behaviors. It is important to practice self-compassion. Treat yourself with the kindness you would show someone else. Remember you are HUMAN and it is normal to struggle with difficult experiences. Be gentle with yourself as you plot your healing journey. Additionally, I encourage you to seek support. This support can be friends, family, or a therapist who provides a safe and supportive environment for you to share your feelings and experiences. It can even be a Listener here on 7cups. Just talking about your trauma can be very healing. The forgiveness I mentioned earlier involves letting go of any self-blame and accepting that you did the best you could under the circumstances. Understand that you are not responsible for any of the trauma that happened to you. Also focus on personal growth. Use your experience as an opportunity for personal growth. Reflect on what you have learned and how you are now stronger. Embrace the changes and resilience that has come from your healing journey. I recommend practicing mindfulness and relaxation. This healing journey can be stressful, so engaging in mindfulness practices like deep breathing, can help calm your mind and keep you present and connected to your emotions. It is recommended to create a healing ritual that symbolizes your journey towards self-forgiveness and healing. This can be as simple as writing a letter to yourself, creating art, or spending time in nature. This next one I can't stress enough. I recommend boundaries. Establish healthy boundaries to protect yourself from further harm and create a safe space for healing. This can be setting limits with people or situations that trigger negative emotions. Finally, during this healing journey, don't forget to celebrate your progress, no matter how small. Every step you take towards forgiving yourself is a significant achievement on your healing journey. As I mentioned, I wanted to share some helpful articles I found on the internet that I feel might be beneficial reading. 10 Ways to Cultivate Self-Forgiveness as a Trauma Survivor [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/invisible-bruises/202407/forgiving-yourself-for-ways-you-coped-after-trauma?msockid=2366366089866a1a1caf231e88506b3f] Forgiveness After Trauma: 7 Practical Steps For Embracing Forgiveness And Healing [https://themindsjournal.com/forgiveness-after-trauma-7-practical-steps-for-embracing-forgiveness-and-healing/] Forgiving Yourself for Ways You Coped After Trauma [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/invisible-bruises/202407/forgiving-yourself-for-ways-you-coped-after-trauma?msockid=2366366089866a1a1caf231e88506b3f] What are some materials you have read that have helped you during your healing journey?  What are some advice you have been given or wish you had been given during your journey that might help someone else going through their own journey?
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Trauma Support Automated Taglist
by CaringBrit
Last post
 February 23rd
...See more This thread controls an auto-updating taglist. To see the current list, go to Trauma Support Community [https://rarelycharlie.github.io/taglist?23eb3b680028ac32c998125af8d8f262]. <<<< checkin posters refer to this click then copy for taglist its instant updated To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button above and write the exact words Please add me. To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button above and write the exact words, Please remove me. highlighting keywords as these are needed no forms to fill in just type to this thread . dont need to copy the colouring though just the keywords highlight is so they stand out is all. New taglist as of August 9th 2024 by audienta @0Some0where0I0BELONG0 @13irth @adaptableLake3534 @adequatelyInadequate @adventurousAcres9344 @adventurousBranch3786 @AffyAvo @AguaNector6700 @allYou @Amelia2324 @amiableBunny4016 @AshFox2007 @AstronomySkies @audienta @Avaray @BeautifulCreation999 @BeenAKiwi @bela12345 @BillyJoeBobb @blueScarf9326 @bouncyBreeze44 @BraveAdventurer @BrokenDreamsPalace @BrokenMedic @bubblegumPuppy68 @bumblebee2307 @Bunnylovesyou @CalmRosebud @CaptainTrev @carefulKitten1131 @CaringBrit @charmingSky5972 @Chrissy911666 @Claireolomi @clare7199 @Colorfulcatsofhope @communicativePond1728 @communicativeYard2325 @conicha @CoolBeans29 @coolvibes @Crakyz @creativeStrings1531 @crimsonLime6525 @crxxtvfl0w @cueball @cyanPlatypus6370 @DaniAleah156 @Dannc7c @DarkGalaxy55555 @daydreammemories @Deadtiredperson175 @delicatepunk @depressedsatellite1452 @diligentDime8651 @DinaElwy @domesticEmerald50s @Eitas @emotional232023 @emotionalTalker2260 @emylly @FallenAngel0128 @Feathersfall @FigureskatingEquestrian @Fireskye13 @Fleggles @fluien @forcefulFriend4768 @Gagaintheroom @gentleLand5245 @Ghxstie @goldenSpruce1512 @Grandmaof10 @Greenchoice1 @gregariousBeing5071 @Grits1910 @helpfulLion92 @hillsideblues @honestpanda81 @HonestWarrior6624 @HopeNChayil @HumanPersonThingy @Iamwhoiamwhoami @IceCream4IceCream @iloveyouxx @IndigoWhisper @InfinityandBeyond23 @inventiveOrange1313 @Itisbailey @jcqlinshots @Journey144 @jovialButterfly6752 @jr50 @Judy7 @jupitermatilde @JustSmilingThruHell @Kekesea11 @Kickiree @Kimmkimm @kindTurtle3738 @kittydragon771 @Kunoichi91Warrior @LightofWorld @LillithHolly @Lilly28 @lilmissjaded @lionsaether @littleHuman9247 @littleOtter1342 @LordFireStorm71 @lovehummingbirdsCindy @LovelyForever6990 @LovelyOrangeJuice @LoveMyMoonflowers @lowkeyem1001 @Lubo123 @Luchelle @lyricalAngel70 @Marigold357 @maya6548 @mcooper7583 @Meenagirl @Mellietronx @mish3l @MistyMagic @mkaitx @Mooglethefluffy @MunchieTaters @MVObserver @mytwistedsoul @navyMango2804 @neatBlueberry3608 @neonDog3649 @neonOwl3442 @NevaehRose @Nolanhm @NoneTheWiser @nonethewiser @notmyselftoday @Novelwriter @npos25 @oceancruiser48 @Oceanwaves16 @OffDutySeraph @OneErased @OneWithSugar @ottersngiggles @parkey @Parvlakin @PatienceImpatiens @pencilmarks @Petrichor2000 @Philowl @Pidgeymon @PinkestOctopus @politeBunny7572 @practicalIdeal2007 @purpleWheel873 @QuietLotus @rainbow3140 @Randomperson453 @RansviewTheWizard @raspberry563 @ReallyRuth @Rebekahwriter13 @Redhawk6547 @Redirecting @redmark @reliablePeach8464 @Rosa9570 @SafeSpace1776 @SapphireSoul @SarahAlaina15 @scarletPear1945 @selfdisciplinedTiger5523 @sensitiveShade5337 @ShapeshiftSystem @shellofashell @shiningDay80 @Silverviolets @sincereThinker3571 @sleepingd0gg0 @SmileSravani @SnippyHam @sofiamartino18 @SoftForestHSP77 @SoulSupporter102 @StarlightSystemDID @stickercollection @Storyhymns1234 @straightforwardSkies7721 @sugarcookies7 @Summer899 @SynSavory @Taylorz27 @tealOak8933 @teenytinyturtle @The0Vetoed0System @TheAutumnWitch @TheFisherKing @ThisIsLogan @ThreadbareThinker @Tinywhisper11 @TransparentPuzzle @turquoiseHemlock900 @Turtlegrrrl8 @u1146 @underapinetree @Understandingempath @UndomesticGoddess @unique73 @uniqueDaisy @veeceebee @Verysadperson101 @Vivikun9 @WarriorHeartsSystem @weepingwillow5489 @WelcomeToChat @wontwakewontsleep @WorkingitThrough2 @Worrior22Warrior @Writersworld @WriteToHeal42 @xandia @xmoonsie16x0
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EMDR
by anonyLemon4233
Last post
 February 6th
...See more I have not felt an inkling of gladness in months but today I finally feel glad! After several months of EMDR today I' was finally ready to close the chapter on a childhood memory 🦋. My response today to the memory was so radically different than at the start of this process. I feel relieved. 🌻
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Don't get out of the comfort zone...
by CatListener
Last post
 December 11th, 2024
...See more It makes sense that, as a trauma survivor, you seek comfort and stability. The idea that "growth only happens outside the comfort zone" isn't always true, especially for those with complex trauma (CPTSD). For survivors, the "comfort zone" can be a place of healing, safety, and regulation—all of which are essential for recovery. Instead of "pushing" yourself out of the comfort zone, you might consider expanding it slowly and intentionally. This way, growth happens without overwhelming your nervous system. Steps like setting small, achievable goals, prioritizing self-compassion, and establishing boundaries are all ways to grow without abandoning safety. Staying in your comfort zone doesn’t mean stagnation—it can mean choosing peace over chaos. And that’s a radical act of self-love, especially if you’ve lived in survival mode for too long.
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Coping with Dissociation
by CatListener
Last post
 December 10th, 2024
...See more Grounding Techniques Grounding helps reconnect you with the present moment and your surroundings: 5-4-3-2-1 Grounding Method: Identify 5 things you can see. Name 4 things you can touch. Recognize 3 things you can hear. Notice 2 things you can smell. Identify 1 thing you can taste. Hold an Object: Find a textured object (like a stone or piece of fabric) and focus on how it feels in your hand. 2. Sensory Stimulation Engage your senses to stay present: Cold Sensations: Hold an ice cube or splash cold water on your face to bring yourself back to the moment. Smell or Taste: Use essential oils or chew mint gum to stimulate your sense of smell and taste. 3. Physical Movement Grounding Walk: Pay attention to each step, noticing the pressure and movement of your feet. Butterfly Hug: Cross your arms over your chest and gently tap your shoulders alternately, creating a comforting rhythm. 4. Breathing Exercises Deep breathing can reduce anxiety and prevent further dissociation: 4-7-8 Breathing: Inhale for 4 counts. Hold your breath for 7 counts. Exhale slowly for 8 counts. Box Breathing: Breathe in for 4 counts, hold for 4 counts, breathe out for 4 counts, hold again for 4 counts. 5. Engage with Your Environment Describe Your Surroundings: Out loud or in your head, describe your environment in detail to anchor yourself. List Colors or Objects: Find and name all the objects of a certain color in the room. 6. Mindfulness Practices Focus on the Present Moment: Use guided meditation apps to practice being in the here and now. Body Scan: Mentally scan your body from head to toe, noticing any sensations. 7. Journaling Grounding Journal: Write about what you see, hear, and feel in the present moment. This reinforces your connection to reality. 8. Connect with Someone Talk to a Trusted Person: A quick conversation can ground you and remind you of your current reality. 9. Safe Place Visualization Imagine a Safe Space: Visualize a place where you feel calm and secure. Use all your senses to build the mental image. 10. Create a "Grounding Kit" Include small objects, snacks, or sensory items (like stress balls) that help you feel anchored. Remember: Dissociation is your mind’s way of coping with overwhelming experiences. These strategies can help, but consistent support from a trauma-informed professional is often essential for long-term healing.
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How to deal with inner critic
by CatListener
Last post
 December 4th, 2024
...See more Changing your inner critic involves transforming negative self-talk into more compassionate and constructive dialogue. Here's a step-by-step guide to help you shift this inner voice: 1. Identify the Inner Critic's Voice Pay attention to when negative thoughts arise. Write them down if you can. Recognize that this voice is not you—it’s a learned response, often shaped by past experiences or external criticism. 2. Challenge the Critic's Statements Question the validity of your inner critic’s messages. Ask yourself: "Is this thought true?" "Would I say this to a friend in a similar situation?" Replace harsh judgments with more balanced or neutral statements. 3. Practice Self-Compassion Treat yourself with the kindness you would show to a friend. When you make a mistake, remind yourself that everyone makes mistakes and it’s part of being human. Use affirmations: Replace critical thoughts with positive ones, like, "I am doing my best," or, "I am worthy, even if things don’t go perfectly." 4. Reframe Negative Thoughts Turn "I can't" into "I can try" or "This is hard now, but I can learn." Replace "I always fail" with "Sometimes I struggle, but I learn and grow." 5. Give Your Inner Critic a Persona Imagine your critic as a character or a voice from the past. This can help you distance yourself from it and take away its power. Some people find it helpful to visualize their critic as a misguided protector who thinks criticism will motivate them. 6. Focus on Strengths and Achievements Keep a journal where you note positive things about yourself and your accomplishments, no matter how small. When the critic appears, remind yourself of these strengths. 7. Practice Mindfulness and Awareness Mindfulness helps you observe your thoughts without judgment. Notice when your inner critic speaks, and calmly redirect your thoughts. Try meditation or deep breathing to stay grounded. 8. Seek Support Talk to friends, a therapist, or a support group about your inner critic. External perspectives can help you challenge negative self-beliefs. Reading self-help books or listening to podcasts on self-compassion can also be useful. 9. Develop a Growth Mindset View mistakes as opportunities to learn rather than failures. Focus on progress, not perfection. 10. Create a Positive Environment Surround yourself with people who uplift and support you. Reduce exposure to toxic environments or triggers that fuel your inner critic. Remember: Changing your inner critic takes time and practice. Be patient with yourself as you work on transforming this voice into a more supportive and understanding one.
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Self coaching help for Trauma
by CatListener
Last post
 December 4th, 2024
...See more 1. Acknowledge the Trauma Begin by acknowledging the impact of your trauma. This doesn’t mean reliving it, but recognizing that your past experiences shape your present feelings, thoughts, and behaviors. Coaching Focus: Reflect on the trauma and how it has affected your sense of self, relationships, and life choices. Identify the patterns that keep you feeling stuck (e.g., ruminating, avoiding) and acknowledge that these are survival mechanisms. 2. Identify Core Beliefs and Thought Patterns CPTSD often leads to negative core beliefs, such as "I’m not worthy," "I can't trust anyone," or "I don’t deserve peace." These beliefs are deeply ingrained but can be challenged. Coaching Focus: Identify limiting beliefs and negative self-talk that stem from trauma. Use techniques like cognitive reframing to replace negative beliefs with empowering, compassionate alternatives. Introduce mindfulness practices to observe thoughts without attachment. 3. Set Small, Achievable Goals Healing from CPTSD can feel overwhelming, so breaking it down into manageable steps is key. Set small goals to help you feel a sense of progress and control over your life. Coaching Focus: Create short-term, realistic goals that contribute to your well-being (e.g., practicing self-care daily, establishing a consistent routine). Celebrate small wins to build confidence and self-efficacy. Set boundaries in relationships to protect your energy and maintain a sense of safety. 4. Regulate Your Emotions Trauma survivors often experience intense emotions like anxiety, shame, or anger. Learning how to regulate these emotions is essential for healing. Coaching Focus: Introduce grounding techniques, such as deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, or visualizations to help you stay present during overwhelming moments. Create a list of self-soothing activities (e.g., exercise, journaling, creative expression) that can help you process emotions in a healthy way. Practice emotional awareness, identifying your emotions early and addressing them before they become overwhelming. 5. Build Resilience Resilience is the ability to bounce back from adversity. For those with CPTSD, this means gradually learning to trust yourself and your ability to handle difficult situations. Coaching Focus: Reflect on your past successes, no matter how small, and recognize the strength you've shown in surviving difficult experiences. Develop coping strategies for future challenges, such as seeking support, using mindfulness, or practicing self-compassion. Focus on creating a growth mindset—viewing setbacks as opportunities for learning rather than failure. 6. Rebuild Trust in Yourself and Others Trust is often broken in CPTSD, both in oneself and in others. Part of healing involves learning to trust again. Coaching Focus: Explore the concept of trust and how it has been impacted by your trauma. Start by setting boundaries with others and practicing saying "no" to protect your emotional well-being. Reconnect with your own intuition and inner wisdom, trusting yourself to make decisions that align with your values and needs. 7. Create a Supportive Environment Healing requires the right environment—one that is emotionally safe and nurturing. This includes people who respect your boundaries, as well as a physical space that promotes calm and peace. Coaching Focus: Assess your relationships and remove or distance yourself from toxic influences. Build a support network that includes people who understand your experience and are committed to your healing journey. Cultivate a space in your home or routine that promotes relaxation, creativity, or peace. 8. Cultivate Self-Compassion Trauma survivors often struggle with self-blame and feelings of unworthiness. Cultivating self-compassion is essential for healing. Coaching Focus: Practice self-kindness, treating yourself as you would treat a loved one who is struggling. Challenge negative self-judgments by reframing them with empathy and understanding. Introduce daily affirmations or gratitude practices to build a positive, loving relationship with yourself. 9. Embrace Your Healing Journey Healing is not linear, and setbacks will occur. However, every step you take is part of your growth. Embrace the process and be patient with yourself. Coaching Focus: Develop a mindset of curiosity, viewing each step as part of your unique healing journey. Reflect regularly on your progress, noting how far you’ve come, even in small ways. Stay connected to your deeper purpose and the values that will guide your healing path. Through coaching, you can create a personalized plan to heal from CPTSD. This plan should be rooted in self-awareness, emotional regulation, resilience-building, and self-compassion. Each step of the process is an opportunity to reclaim your personal power and move toward a life of peace and fulfillment.
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The Connection Between Social Anxiety and PTSD
by InvaderStitch
Last post
 February 28th, 2024
...See more Today I was sitting at work DREADING making a phone call I needed to make and it just made me realize how much my social anxiety really paralyzes me. It also made me curious about how often Social Anxiety and PTSD are related to one another. The Connection According the the article I found on psych central [https://psychcentral.com/ptsd/childhood-trauma-social-anxiety]only about 3.2-16% of individuals with social anxiety have a PTSD diagnosis, however almost half of people diagnosed with PTSD also have social anxiety disorder. This suggests that for SOME people, social anxiety may be related to social trauma. While there is debate over whether or not social trauma meets the criteria for PTSD, it does seem to create some of the same symptoms such as flashbacks, avoidance, distorted thoughts, or changes in reactivity. If you’re experiencing these symptoms because of a social trauma, your experience is completely valid (and not uncommon). Social anxiety presents itself in an individual when they experience a large amount of stress in social situations including a fear of being judged or humiliated. It can also be accompanied by physical symptoms such as a racing heart, interfere with ability to speak or interact with others, it may also make going to work or school feel impossible. Sometimes social anxiety feels pretty debilitating. Having social anxiety makes you more prone to experiencing social trauma and developing PTSD symptoms related to the trauma because of increased sensitivity and stress in social situations. A study in 2020 that looked at the prevalence of PTSD in individuals with Social Anxiety, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, and a control group without a diagnosis of Social Anxiety or OCD. What they found is that ⅓ of individuals with social anxiety experienced had PTSD whereas the prevalence of PTSD in the control group and OCD group was not significant. This research suggests a correlation between Social Anxiety and some sort of trauma. Treatments The good news is that there are professional treatments that can help you manage social anxiety disorder and PTSD. The article recommends * Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) * Cognitive Processing Therapy (CPT) * Prolonged Exposure (PE) * Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) * Internal Family Systems (IFS) Some treatments that have been shown effective for social anxiety, but not specifcially trauma include: * Interpersonal Therapy * Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) * Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) * Psychodynamic Therapy There are also some classes of medications that help with social anxiety that you can talk to a healthcare professsional about if therapy alone isn’t helping. Tips to try on your own Some tips for in the moment that help with both PTSD and social anxiety are: * Name the feeling: If you’re able to name what your experiencing and recognize it as a response to a trigger, the feelings tend to pass more quickly. * Breathe: Focusing on your breathing and slowing down and deepening your breaths is a proven way to calm the nervous system which will reduce the symptoms you are experiencing in the moment. * Connecting to your surroundings: shifting our attention to your senses can help you get out of your head and have a calming effect. If you’re paying attention to your senses it’s a lot harder to pay attention to your thoughts. * Distraction: Some people use humor to distract from the discomfort. Other ideas include calming music or simple activities that take your mind of the anxious feelings. Discussion Questions What are your thoughts on Social Anxiety and PTSD? Does Social Anxiety interfere with important aspects of your life? What is your experience with social anxiety? Do you think your social anxiety and PTSD are interconnected? What are some tips you have that might help those of us struggling with social anxiety manage our symptoms? Any other thoughts about the information?
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Hey I'm not sure where to ask, but I was wondering how to help maybe physical discomforts during s'ual triggers?
by ScaredLongNeckedFrend
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 November 12th, 2023
...See more I'm male and I don't mean arousal, I'll end up cutting those organs off if it keeps doing that. I really can't compare the type of discomfort with anything, and libido already feels uncomfortable when things feel too intensely triggering. I don't know how to cope. I'm still working on a lot of things to get to professionals, doctors or clinical people, and I haven't for an array of reasons. And apart from intense fear and panic over clinical settings/people, disclosing personal information and these types of subjects, I somehow just noticed that I might also need to work on intimacy (on a friendship or clinical level). I've never had anything safe for it. So if you've any readings or videos regarding intimacy in those settings I would really appreciate it. Idk what to do for that either
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Helpful Books for Interpersonal Trauma Recovery
by HopeLives23
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 July 15th, 2023
...See more I'm always looking for great books that are helpful to explain about interpersonal trauma, addresses awareness, acknowledgement, coping skills, and related steps toward self-exploration and recovery. Have you read a good book or worked through a good workbook lately on recovery from childhood abuse, sexual assault, domestic violence or sex trafficking? I'd love to know what you've read and how the book was helpful wise. Looking forward to hearing from you.
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🎨Easy Grounding Tricks For Panic Attacks 🔆
by SilverMistakes
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 March 8th, 2023
...See more I hope some of us may benefit from this post 🎼 Helps to - reestablish self awareness of the space around me, after an intense set of flashbacks. Steps * Identify five things that you can see * Four things that you can touch * Three things that you can hear * Two things you can smell * And one thing that you can taste. An important aspect of this is actually taking the time to experience each thing — reach out and touch that cabinet, smell that candle, take a sip of that coffee. Not only does this keep one grounded in the present moment, but it also encourages to begin engaging with own environment again, which can feel daunting after being so harshly ripped away from reality.
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EMDR
by mindyjoe90
Last post
 February 1st, 2023
...See more Hello is anyone currently also going through EMDR therapy as a trauma recovery and support system? It’s very lonely and your thinking changes in a healthy way but wow. It’s so overwhelming. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. Just reaching out for more support.

Trauma Support

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Welcome to Trauma Support! We aim to provide a safe, empowering, inclusive, supportive and proactive community for trauma survivors to have the opportunity to begin healing from our experiences, in a non-judgmental environment. We also want to help spread awareness about trauma and its impact on individuals' lives while validating the members of this community, reducing the isolation many people feel. Therefore, trauma survivors as well as loved ones of them or people who want to learn about trauma are welcome here. 

What are the different forum topics for Trauma Support?

Bluelight, Medical & Veterans Trauma Support: Support for those who experience or witness trauma at work

Check-Ins & Prompts:  Regular check-ins and prompts, created by our leadership team

Child & Domestic Abuse: For people who have experienced child abuse, domestic abuse or even both

Coping with Attachment Difficulties: Help and support for people with attachment difficulties

Creativity Corner: A creative space for poetry, art, and healing and recovery quotes

Dissociation & Related Disorders: A place to discuss your struggles with dissociation and how it relates to your trauma

Introductions & Welcomes: Are you new to the Trauma Community? Share a little about yourself!

Journaling Stories: This area is for sharing your story or creating a diary

PTSD & Complex Trauma: Share stories and seek support for PTSD and complex PTSD

Resources: Share and seek resources here

Sexual Assault and Sexual Abuse: A place for those affected by sexual assault and sexual abuse

Trauma through Bullying: A place to seek support around the issue of suffering traumatic experiences as a result of bullying

Trauma through War: This section is there for people who have been impacted by war

Traumatic Loss: For survivors of traumatic loss of any kind

How can I help?

You can help us by simply responding to threads and sharing your story (if you're comfortable to). 

Alternatively, you may wish to join us as a Forum Leader. Check out this thread for more information.

In addition to that, you can take part in discussions or become a host for them.

Finally, you could also have a look at the posts of our trauma support sub-community writing team or even join it. 

Helpful Threads

Taglist: Do you want to stay up to date with our community? Then join our taglist to be notified for important posts.

Discussions: Here you can find out when the next discussion takes place.

Trauma Support Room Access: Find out how you can access the trauma support room here. The room is open during the discussions and on Sundays.

Masterpost: Within this thread, you can find a number of educative and supportive posts that our writing team has written.

Leadership Team: In this thread, you can get to know our leadership team.

Trauma Support FAQ

Are there any sub-community specific guidelines that we need to adhere to? 

- Yes, all sub-community specific guidelines can be found below and should be followed in addition to the general forum guidelines.

How can I give feedback or ideas to the leadership team?

- You can either pm audienta directly, use this form to contact the forum leaders, or this form for general feedback about the trauma support sub-community.

Help... I still have a question! 

You can ask your questions in this thread and someone will respond to you as soon as possible.

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These are the Trauma Support Sub-Community Guidelines, which have been drawn up in addition to the 7 Cups main guidelines and are specific for the Trauma Support community:

  • Uphold and comply with the 7 Cups main guidelines
  • Respect everyone, members and listeners alike
  • Do not discourage/be unsupportive/blame/judge one another for their past
  • No graphic, in depth descriptions or pictures which could be triggering for others - in forums, chat and support session
  • Please always add a trigger warning if you believe your thread could be potentially triggering/harmful and/or contains one of the topics on this list. Also, please add a short topic description to the trigger warning (e.g. "Trigger Warning: Domestic Abuse) and if you're in a group support chat, wait a moment to see if everyone is comfortable with the topic. If not, agree on a time span during which the person who's not comfortable with the topic leaves the chat. Once they come back after this time span, change the topic.
  • Cursing not permitted and must be asterisked. (It is fine to vent and to express appropriate anger, but as curse words have often been used during abusive and traumatic experiences, we ask members and listeners to asterisk abusive/curse words to avoid triggering and upsetting members where possible and to maintain a respectful environment and to encourage positive and healthy expression of anger.)
  • Forums postings made by listeners and members should be transparent, made in English and should not be blocked out using colouring to disguise content of wording/messages sent between members/listeners, to maintain the safety of all users of the trauma sub community and to ensure all rules are being complied with.
  • Everyone is unique and their experiences are individual to them. Everyone’s experiences and how they think and feel about these are valid. Everyone reacts to traumatic experiences differently. This will be respected and appreciated without judgement.
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