Friends
In life you meet a lot of people where some of them makes you feel close to them, but for a short time. While i was small, I used to have lot of friends. We used to play all the time and we felt we were inseperarable. We used to wait for each other in the bus stop and we felt that this bond remains same forever. As I grew older, forever is just a myth . When my friends shifted their priorities , they began to replace our friendship. Today when we go to the same bus stop, we would behave like known strangers. Different time, different mindset and same place. It's not their fault. Some people come into our life for a limited time frame and leave us footprints deeply engraved in our heart. While some of them breaks our spirits and take a part of us when they leave. I remember as I grew older, when my close friends stop making time for our frindship, I would chase behind them for that familiarity, only to end up being a placeholder in their life. I remember crying all the time. Some of them hurted me at last knowing that i am the most sensitive and naive soul. One thing what our heart find difficult to accept is that " people change and its not in our control". You don't need to have lot of friends in your life. Even a friend who is utmost true and genuine to you matters a lot in today's world. You don't need to talk to them everyday. Their presence make you feel home .Today I am alone and lonely and today I want to share all my love and care to all my friends and family in this app.
How was friendship mean to you?
@forcefulBirch2526 wow, this post resonated with me a lot. I've had a lot of people that i've "clicked" with over the years, a lot fewer that i became "friends" with, and a few that i became really good friends with, and because of some family abandonment issues, i was always terrified of losing them or being rejected by them if i revealed too much of my "true self". Or worse, when i did get comfortable enough to "be myself", they did stop wanting to be around me, proving my rejection phobias too.
It's taken a lot of growing, and self assessment over the past few years (and a lot of therapy lol) and i finally realized that friendship doesn't or shouldn't really count unless you really truly can be yourself and you find someone who accepts you for who you are and you like them even knowing all their flaws and troubles too. Now I can say i have only met two people who fall under that category, my wife and my best friend, and i have so much value and appreciation for them.
Everyone else, i hope to always show my appreciation for them, for what we do share, what time we do have together, and especially for who they are as a person, but i have very low expectations as far as what role i see them playing in my life long term, and if we don't stay in as close contact after awhile, that's ok, and that just means we weren't meant to be in each others lives for that long and that's ok. It's even beautiful in a way, if we think of it as everyone who we have in our lives, for however short a time it is, touches us and has the potential to help us grow even more as people.
Thank you for sharing with me dear. HAVE A GOOD DAY . sending my wishes and regards
Advance happy new year
@SummerOfCA
Thanks for the perspective. I'm interested in developing friendships, and probably would have labeled some experiences as failed attempts... that could be appreciated as positive experiences and interactions with others.
I'm so happy I got to see this today. Sending lots of hugs to you.
This resonated with me quite a lot because I was someone that although I knew a lot of people, I never really quite connected with anyone and it made me feel quite lonely and sad.
An advice I can share from my own growth that made a difference is to focus on you and what you already have. When you get to know and love yourself better, you'll be more selective of the attitude you accept from others helping you to effectively make connections with those you'd really be able to be yourself with.
Less trash makes room for more love, for something real.❤️
@forcefulBirch2526
To me, personaly, "friendship" is a very misundertood concept and very badly used word.
But yeah... I can relate with your post. 😅
Nice, it's all about how much energy you put into.
@forcefulBirch2526 wow. Loved whatever you wrote. Friends mean everything to me
Any relationship without judging.
And without betrayal consider as best for me
@forcefulBirch2526 😊 I'm sorry that you were hurt, it's not easy. Friendship for me is being able to be yourself unapologetically, but it has to be reciprocal and honest, being able to genuinely say how you feel. One special and trustworthy friend is worth more than a thousand going through the motions.
Friendship to me is family. You give value to them because they have become your family, without expecting anything in return. If you make a mistake you would hope they would forgive you. If you lose someone to grief, you would hope they’d be there for you. They hold grudges and don’t value you the same. That’s when friendship becomes a ship that sailed away.
I have strict boundaries now and I value those who value me. I asked a dear friend of mine what true love is because she found her soulmate after so long. She told me it’s about reciprocity. I love that and I completely understand what she means. Where love is not reciprocated in the same way, it’s not love. It’s simply something that is used and disposable.
Taken for granted*
