Too sick to start a family?

@adaptivePoetry8351 aww honey I'm sorry your struggling so bad with all this🙁 unfortunately mental health can really have a huge effect on us this way😥 but your only 36 so you still have plenty of time 💖 and there is always other options like fostering it adopting. I know that's not gonna be your original plan but just know there are options out there💖💖 what about joining some local clubs, or a dating site?? Hugs you tightly 💗 I really hope you find everything your looking for💖

@adaptivePoetry8351

Hi adaptive.. Its a well written post using simple words describing your feelings. I agree it feels when we see others of our age doing certain things and leading a different life than us. I also felt same at certain amount of time. But my vision changed when I actually went in their house and saw the reality of life with kids. My friends shared their daily life challenges with kids and their partner. Ofcourse they were happy and not complaining but at the same time I asked myself 'Am I ready for it?'. The answer was a straight 'No'.

My friends straight forward cleared my doubts that what we see in social media is just superficial as tip of the iceberg.

I have come accross plenty friends over the years. Few are not married, few are but no kids and few are with kids. But a thing common in them is they all have their own separate challenges that shapes their life.

I am sharing this here to support you by giving examples that 'Everyone's timeline is different'. 

"People crave for what we have while we are looking to have what they have." 

I hope I was able to support You.

Hoping best. 😊😊💜💙

I feel you 😔

@adaptivePoetry8351

I agree with the person who said that married life and having children can not only make you happier, but also are a great challenge... sometimes... or every day.

From my experience, whenever I met a good person, there was always a chance to take a step forward and some opportunity for me to grow as a human being. But when my relationship choices were poor, my fears, anxiety and traces of past traumas were going through the roof...

It's a great happiness to be a parent, but a great responsibility, too. You have to be standing on your toes daily, being constantly on alert and overwhelmed by a mixture of positive and not so positive emotions, and if you have problems with depression, anger, anxiety or self-esteem, they are multiplied in the process.

Maybe it's not yet the time to assess if you are able to have a family or not (I guess you can always ask your therapist about it, too - I guess he or she knows you much better than we here at 7 Cups). But bearing in your mind the picture of your relationship and family - isn't that one of the best motivations for recovery you can have? 😊 

@adaptivePoetry8351 I am sorry, the life has been rough, it happens, and i Know that giving suggestions is way too easy than facing the issues and honestly speaking, I feel you are tough and strong .

 A question I would ask is what do you think you would suggest someone who is like you in parallel universe, probably to visit the expert to improve your mental health, open up you life to accept someone new and be happy.

I am not saying that its easy and you are not trying but its probably one of the way you can improve things in your life. I would like to be your friend in this challenging period, you can always share the update of improvement.
One more thing, your life story has been different from others so no point in comparison...
 Be happy Be healthy ..
 you can do it..

Hi dear, I feel you.

I've been there and I am still slipping from time to time. Your words "I've always imagined.." echo loudly in me.. That was one of my problems. I had expectations, I had dreams, I had desire things to be in a certain way. Instead of grabbing whatever life offers, living here and now, breathing with full lungs, laughing and crying.. I had expectations. I still do to certain degree. It hurts.

Given my mental health and how it started generations before me, and how it gotten worse with every new generation, I decided not to give life to others like me. Enough suffering.

Love and peace! Do

You aren’t and realizing it is the big step. I’m in the same boat and it took the person I loved the most to realize it and start taking the steps. It’s long and frustrating, I’m strapping in for a hard year for myself but I’ll come out of it the person I know I am and able to show that to everyone. My loved ones keep reminding me to have grace for myself because the steps to getting better are so heavy.

What’s your calling?