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Weekly Prompt #3: What helped you understand and accept your sexuality/gender identity
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 February 25th
...See more Hi everyone, I hope you are all well. Last time we discussed, What one piece of advice would you give to your younger self? [https://www.7cups.com/forum/LGBTQMOGIISupport_58/DiscussionsandResources_2305/WeeklyPrompt2Whatoneadvicewouldyougivetoyouryoungerself_302416/] In today's prompt, I want us to take a minute of reflection and share what was the journey of coming out looked like for you. The prompt: What helped you understand and accept your sexuality/gender identity? What was that journey like for you? Share your thoughts with us. Join us in the LGBTQ Support Chat today! [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=mmRpeXyVlOJO42uXVVyYhttps://www.7cups.com/connect/groupChatrooms.php] [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=mmRpeXyVlOJO42uXVVyY] ------------------------- [http://twitter.com/share?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.7cups.com%2Fforum%2FLGBTQMOGIISupport_58%2FDiscussionsandResources_2305%2FWeeklyPrompt2Whatoneadvicewouldyougivetoyouryoungerself_302416%2F&text=Weekly+Prompt+%232%3A+W+%407cups] [/sharer/sharer.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.7cups.com%2Fforum%2FLGBTQMOGIISupport_58%2FDiscussionsandResources_2305%2FWeeklyPrompt2Whatoneadvicewouldyougivetoyouryoungerself_302416%2F]
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Strengthening Our Community: Listening to LGBTQ+ Voices
by Heather225
Last post
 February 23rd
...See more In these challenging times, we want to remember our commitment to inclusivity and support for all members of our diverse community, especially our LGBTQIA+ folks. We believe that everyone deserves a safe and supportive space to connect, share their experiences, and find the help they need, regardless of their sexual orientation, gender identity, gender expression, or any other identity. 7 Cups is built on the foundation of empathy and understanding. We strive to create an environment where everyone feels welcome, respected, and heard. We recognize that the struggles and triumphs of the LGBTQIA+ community are unique and deserve specific attention and support, particularly in the face of current events. We are dedicated to providing resources, fostering understanding, and amplifying the voices of our LGBTQIA+ members. We know that allyship is an ongoing process, and we are constantly learning and growing. We encourage open and honest conversations about how we can better support our LGBTQIA+ community within 7 Cups and beyond. We value your feedback and insights as we continue this journey together. To all of you within our LGBTQIA+ family: What can the community do to better hear and support you during these difficult times? What are some things you wish allies understood? How can we express this? What would you like the community to know about LGBTQIA+ and beyond? Please answer any of the above. Your responses will be packaged up in a new post dedicated to community awareness to ensure we, as a collective community, are doing right by one another.
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Standing Together with Our Trans Community 🏳️‍⚧️
by Heather225
Last post
 February 4th
...See more There's a lot of uncertainty and unrest in our world right now and for anyone who may be suffering right now, either as a trans person or anyone on the LGBTQ+ spectrum, my heart goes out to you. Please know that you are not alone. You are loved, you are valid, and you deserve to live authentically and safely. I hope that you can take comfort in our community and lean on us. We are stronger together. Be it a virtual shoulder to cry on or a distraction from the negativity, we've got you. You belong here. Let's all try to be there for each other during these very challenging times. Message your trans friends, let them know you're thinking of them, and let's do what we do best: listen.  Stay hopeful. We're gonna get through this. Sending you all my love and support. ❤️ 
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Why deny
by toughPunch
Last post
 Tuesday
...See more having a fetish is not a reality
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Words like "crossdress", "femboy"
by dysprodyspro
Last post
 February 27th
...See more Tomorrow marks my first attempt at being in a virtual support group for trans masculine people. I've identified as male (FTM) for almost twelve years now but I just came out to my mother and sibling a few weeks ago. I'm also gay. I'm discovering that a huge portion of who I am revolves around crossdressing. I want to identify as a femboy while wearing feminine clothing. This isn't because I'm nonbinary in anyway, I still want to be called he/him while wearing skirts. I just bought a bunch of clothes to just wear in my room when my mom isn't home because she makes fun of me. I love her very much but she isn't the most sensitive person. I'm worried that if I tell other transmen/trans masculine people that crossdressing is a part of my identity, they will think lesser of that identity or believe I'm not really transgender. It shouldn't matter, right? Lots of cismen crossdress, why can't transmen? But I have a history of being rejected by other people in the LGBTQ community as a teenager. It's not impossible. A lot of this is very new to me. Are words like "crossdresser" and "femboy" going to insult people? Or are they okay to use? To close this vent, thank you for existing as an online source I could go to, this website means a lot to me.
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I have trust issues and I am depressed because of it, what to do now as a man (ftm)?
by lifeLdreaming
Last post
 February 17th
...See more I as a person, I don't even know what I am anymore but I still don't wanna give up on life, I wanna hold onto some identity that I can own but I dunno. I am questioning but my parents aren't bad also even if they verbally disagree with me about my feelings.. Idk anymore I just need a life but I cannot seem to get it as a man. Yeah.. I am just a man in a woman's body but even I have a hard time believing in myself when I showed signs of being trans at an early age like.. primary school or earlier. I never cared about gender and sex and I still don't, only my environment does and it's kil**ng me inside but I want transition too but Idk anymore if I deserve it or not. Sorry for the vent I just wanna know how I can survive or if I can survive. I am going to a psychotherapist but I am really scared that she won't understand. I just am and I cannot avoid it. That's all, sorry for just sharing this I needed it. Thank you for reading. In summary I like my family but I am a wimp but I cannot avoid being a wimp. I hope I am not trans but I dunno.. I also write too much, sorry for that too.
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Narrowly avoided harassment yesterday despite being closeted
by chaoticEnbyAxolotl89
Last post
 February 13th
...See more Hi. I'm a closeted 17 year old non-binary person, and yesterday I was alone walking through the quad at school when a group of guys maybe twenty feet away yelled “Hey, ‘They/Them’!” I didn’t think they were talking to me because I’m not out and I have terrible space awareness so I barely heard them. But when I didn’t respond they just said to each other “Nah, I don’t think he’s a [slur].”  So like… on the one hand my ignorance saved me, but on the other hand WHAT THE ACTUAL F*** AND HOW THE F*** DID THEY KNOW ABOUT MY IDENTITY?! The only way I can imagine is that either a) someone saw something in my notebook (which I try to keep clear of anything trans-related) or b) they just made a lucky guess. To be honest the second choice wouldn't be that crazy considering I wear a bright purple jacket all the time and act generally strange, but I'm still extremely nervous about how they would've known. I don't even know these people, so were they told by someone else? Is this a rumor that's being spread throughout the school??? Normally I wouldn't give a f*** if someone spread some rumor about me, but this time around it could legitimately put me in a dangerous situation (especially considering the US' current political situation), and I'm really nervous.  Also, this is the first time I've ever heard someone actually use a trans slur (I have always stayed away from people like that, even before figuring out my identity), and it stung way more than I would've expected it to. But mostly, I'm just really nervous. Even though California is a very liberal state, the current federal government is devolving into something really dangerous and it seems these people might be emboldened by this. Anyway, I just needed to vent this somewhere, and I just wanted to see if anyone had any advice to stay safe and avoid accidentally outing myself, assuming every transphobe on campus doesn't all know already...
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Are my parents transphobic? Should I wait too come out?
by OnyxMcG
Last post
 February 4th
...See more A few days ago, on Saturday, me and my family got into a big argument about trans people in sports. Me being trans myself, defended the fact that trans women are still women and that they should be able to play womens sports. My dad did not agree, to say the least. He said the trans women had an “unfair advantage” and even brought up Lia Thomas, a transgender swimmer, referring to her as a “guy” and “he”. I corrected his use of pronouns saying that she uses she/her pronouns, which made him more upset and he stormed off. I haven’t officially come out as transgender but I’m sure they suspect. But this whole conversation makes me scared to actually tell them. I just don’t know what to do, I don’t want to upset my parents but I don’t think I can go by my deadname or she/her pronouns any longer. But my sister is only six and she's autistic so she doesn’t understand what transgender means. I don’t want to confuse her. I’m just so lost. I can’t hide this part of me forever, but I don’t know when the appropriate time is. I only have a few years before I start college and move out of the house.
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Lets turn this phrase around🌈
by Listeningsarinn
Last post
 February 3rd
...See more Hey rainbow land 💜 one of my favorite things that we have done as a community is turning some words and phrases around for example the word queer had been used as an insult towards us for a long while until we managed to turn it around and make it a well liked umbrella term for our community in the most loving way one of the transphobe go to phrases is «i can tell» There is almost always a comment saying well i can still tell you are a girl/a boy under every post a trans or nonbinary person makes on the internet the funny part is, no they cant even tell (:  they be accidentally making the most gender affirming comment sometimes😂 but now there is a trend going on in some social media with the hashtag #icantell What we do is we start a sentence with this phrase and continue it with a wholesome, supportive, loving opinion/observation about the person  so lets hop on this trend, shall we Think of a trans or nonbinary person you know either in real life, in cups or a content creator you love What is something you can tell about them? 
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LGBT+ over 50's
by Dani1970
Last post
 January 7th
...See more i am 54 years old ive only come out to my friends not my family......i identify with Bigender im familier with all concepts of gender....my personality is a combination of all things masculine and feminine. a crossdresser some times i go as a man sometimes a woman....
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The trans pin I ordered a week ago finally arrived. I'm kicking around he/him because I still have my guy days and moments. Feel more woman than man
by A0curious0fire
Last post
 December 10th, 2024
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Trying to make plans
by mushroomdraws4lif
Last post
 December 9th, 2024
...See more Hi, i go by karie but i am a trans man and currently i don't have much support for my plans to transition  i try to be confident in my identity and tell people to refer to me as he/him or at least anything other than feminine, but i continuously get shot down by people like my mom or friends i know that changing my identity/transitioning is not just impacting me, but having to figure it out at 16 is impacting me really badly and i dont think the authorities in my life understand that i dont want my brain is suddenly crash out because i can never be myself - ive been masking as an afab feminine girl for the past 6 years and i dont like it anymore; i think i know what im doing and i'm not taking this lightly as it's had clear effects on my mental health and my view of myself i end up covering mirrors and not looking at myself often because i can't stand looking at a girl's body dysphoria is not new for me but it feels more amplified around this time because i'm by myself more and i feel like everyone around me has more freedom than i do, which is really frustrating i dont want advice because i know i'll never be able to put it into effect on my own i just want a hug, please you can call me karie, i don't mind
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Just a fun little story.
by darkgreenfrog
Last post
 November 21st, 2024
...See more Hi everyone! My name is Frog, and I am a genderfluid, gay, asexual who just joined 7 cups! I thought I'd share a fun little story to start off.  Yesterday, my brother went to a soccer game and I wanted to be on the playground equipment. (I'm 15 and I have autism) I was waiting in line for a swing and this little kid comes up to me and says "are you a boy or a girl" I smiled, because it felt euphoric that the kid didn't guess on sight, and I said "Yes." He looked really confused and ran off, but I felt very happy. Feel free to reply to this thread with anything! Love,  Frog
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How can I accept my biological gender?
by Djeidi
Last post
 November 9th, 2024
...See more I just have no other option but to accept the gender I was born as nothing else is an option.
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My gender is completely broken
by TheChaotic1
Last post
 September 20th, 2024
...See more Hey, so I'm genderfluid and I kinda hate it. I go between hating my body because I'm too feminine, then hating it because I'm not feminine enough. And I constantly want to change the name I go by, if I could find ONE that worked for all the genders, I'd be okay.  It's just a bit frustrating

LGBTQ+/MOGII Support

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Welcome to LGBTQ+/MOGII Support! We are so pleased that you have found our little rainbow here in the 7 cups forums. Our community is here to support you as an LGBTQ+/MOGII person, family member, friend and/or ally. Whether you are curious and questioning, or out and proud, and all the stages in between, this is a place where you can find support in being who you are and coping with the challenges that come with it. We strive to keep this a safe space for all. Here you can discuss anything and everything related to the LGBTQ+/MOGII community and being LGBTQ+/MOGII.


What are the different forum topics for LGBTQ+/MOGII Support?

Asexual Umbrella Support: Got a question or want to share more about asexuality? Explore more here!

Checking in and breaking the ice: A place for you to introduce yourself, take part in our community check-ins and get to know other community members by participating in fun games!

Community & Culture: Want to know more about the LGBTQ+/MOGII community and cultural contributions? This is the place to learn more!

Discussions and Resources: Want to participate in meaningful discussions and access additional resources? Join in here!

Gay Support: Got a question or want to share more about being gay? Uncover more here!

Gender Identity Support: Questioning your gender identity? Want to share your experiences? Discuss it here!

Intersex Support: Got a question or want to share more about being intersex? Learn more here!

LGBTQ+ General Support:  Struggling with other issues as an LGBTQ+/MOGII person? Working to cope with issues impacting the wider LGBTQ+/MOGII community? Find more support here! 

Lesbian Support: Got a question or want to share more about being a lesbian? Share your experiences here!

Multisexual Umbrella Support: Got a question or want to share more about multisexuality? Discuss more here!

Questioning & Coming Out: Are you questioning? Thinking about coming out? Maybe you already have? Share your struggles and stories here!


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You can help us by simply responding to threads and sharing your story (if you're comfortable to). Alternatively, you may wish to join us as a Forum Leader. Check out this thread for more information. Even just participating in events, check-ins and group chats can be a great way to help build and support the community!


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6. Gender Expression

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7. Gender Identity

(Understanding and finding gender and gender identity, gender terminology and glossaries)

8. Health, Dysphoria & Transitioning

(Gender Dysphoria help, transitioning resources, LGBTQ+ health information)

9. Religion

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10. Sex Diversity & Intersex

(Understanding sex diversity and intersex, resoruces)

11. Sexual & Romantic Orientations

(Understanding attraction and orientation, finding and accepting your identity, gay, lesbian, bi, pan resources)

12. Workplace & Education

(Being LGBTQ+, coming out at and seeking work, university or school)

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