I Don’t Fit In

@jesusredeemedme2425 There are people don’t like a particular race/culture. There are people who don’t want to be the race/culture that they are. Some who even pretend to be from a race or culture they are not. And yeah, if you come from a particular culture you can be blamed for not being “enough of” or not defending your culture enough. Race is a construct. Culture is real. But not one human being on earth who chose their geographic or cultural origin at birth and so it shouldn’t be an issue. But humans.

@jesusredeemedme2425 😞 wraps you up in a cosy blanket and cuddles you up ❤ why anyone picks on anyone because of their colour, race, or where they live, is just disturbingly ignorant. Not feeling accepted is a horrible feeling,sorry sweetie 😥but there is one family who loves you unconditionally, one place where you fit in and will always be accepted, there's one place where you are loved and appreciated ❤ right here at 7 cups with all of us ❤ I love you kiara

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That's definitely not your fault, and it's really *** if they full-on make you a laughingstock.  If you took interest in the culture, do you think they'd teach you anything?

I have a weird story of my own. I literally thought I was mostly German when I was growing up.  There's a slight bit of German in the family, but I'm actually mostly Polish.  The thing is, German was spoken around my grandma's house (a lot of them lived there for a time), and the only spoken Polish word was a swear word.   

You are not. You are unique. Plus you are a product of your environment, we all are. Some happen to fall in the same environment as there race but that is just pure luck.

I am black grew up with my peeps and then migrated to Europe when i was 10. To my familly i am foreign even to i know the culture and speak the language with ofcourse an accent. But to the folks of the country i live in I'm a foreigner, an immigrant yet I lived here for 20 years.

So to me I'm both as I fully understand and can operate in both countries yet because i will always be a little different i am neither to them.

You are not a laughingstock you have just a richer cultural background. you know more of 2 cultures than most people can say. Be proud of it darling, it's an enrichment most can't see

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Being proud of your identity also comes from the acceptance of the people in your community. And I can see how not being accepted by either race/ethnicity can impact the way you may see yourself. But others can't see how you bring your own unique experiences that make you special 🌟. So don't let their ridicule get to you! You are unique, and that is your superpower🦸, so don't let others drag you down for it 🤗

@jesusredeemedme2425 This must have been so hard

@jesusredeemedme2425

Hi my sweet friend! 😊 ❤️

I just came along your forum post. For one who does so much and for so very many here on this platform, might I say, this has stopped me in my tracks! 😳 Of course I feel incredibly moved and I want to respond to you and straight from my heart to yours! ❤️

You can use what ever verbiage you like my friend! I'm not here to pick you apart or to judge you and nor should anyone else. 

I can only imagine how difficult this must be for you and you have a right to your feelings. It truly is unfair as we don't get to choose what race/ethnicity we are when we come into this world. We don't get to pick and choose and then to be shunned by part of who we are, what it is that we are. This is wrong. It isn't you that it is at fault, it is they instead. You have done nothing wrong. 

This strikes me as you being the victim of racism, bigotry, prejudices and by small minded people. Indeed, you my friend are neither stupid nor lazy. I can stand here as your friend and as your teammate and beyond a shadow of a doubt, these are words that should never be applied to you! EVER! Let me *say it louder for those in the back* 

I for one have deep respect and admiration for you! I find you to be a truly wonderful and caring human being! I'm proud to call you my friend and my teammate! I wish I could clone you! What the world needs is more people just like you my dear friend! 

It's heart breaking to know that others have made you feel this way. It's wrong. I know this. Interestingly enough, their loss is our gain. We here on 7 cups all win in the end by having you here because you do fit in, you do belong and you belong here with us! Let them be short sighted, myopic vision and mean spirited. Clearly this is a "them problem". It is they that lose by not having the privilege to spend time with you. 

I am grateful for you ❤️ and you are part of my "tribe"! 😊

big big *hugs* ❤️

@jesusredeemedme2425 Hey friend! I'm also mixed-race (white and Vietnamese). I don't speak Vietnamese and I don't know much about my culture, like holidays or traditions or anything like that. It's normal to feel conflicted and feel like you have to "fit in" to either side. It took me a long time to learn how to love the fact that I'm mixed. We're unique and get to celebrate two different heritages and I think that's special. I'm really sorry people make fun of you, as it happens to me too occasionally, as they say I'm not "Asian enough." I hope you know that you don't have to fit in. Your identity, whatever that may look like, is unique and therefore special!!

@jesusredeemedme2425 one thing I try to remind young black folks is that the people bullying you probably don't know anything about their own culture either lol. They're just bullies, not all black people will bully you for being mixed were all very different. Americans tend to think black culture is gangsta rap, police brutality, slavery and just crime and trauma but that's not culture. It's not rap music or BET either. Black culture is family cookouts, singing your heart out at church, making sweet potato pie instead of pumpkin pie, knowing about Africa and where you come from, the black wall streets like Tulsa, the civil rights movements, the great thinkers McCoy, knowing that your an American despite not always being treated like one and have a community with a long history of overcoming struggle, knowing how to be goofy and when to be serious and the importance of family. You leave all that by just being around good people. Don't just embrace one culture embrace your whole self. Your not missing anything dude your fine the way you are