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                        Moving forward with positive focus
                        
                    
                    
                
                        by ASilentObserver
                    
                
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July 19th, 2024
                    July 19th, 2024
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                Hello everyone! I hope everyone is doing well.
As you might know, we did a growth path survey a couple of weeks ago where we asked what kind of growth paths you all would like to see. And, one of the most requested categories was Moving forward with a positive focus.
I'd like to invite you to help me create good growth paths in this category. It would be great to team up where we collectively share what has helped us learn, understand, how to move forward with a positive focus. These can be personal experiences, things people have said to us, books or ideas we have come across, talks or short videos we have found on YouTube, images that we find helpful, etc.
Let's share all of the above in this thread and work together to figure out how to make these steps or exercises. It can be used to help others become better at moving forward.
Any and all ideas, thoughts are welcomed. This is our discussion space where we can get ideas flowing. We will figure it out as we learn and evolve. Thank you and I'm looking forward to working with you all on creating Growth Path Playlists on this topic!
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We would also appreciate your feedback, thoughts on these topics too: Open here to check! [https://www.7cups.com/forum/SiteUpdates_100/HelpUsBuildGrowthPaths_2224/HelpusBuildGrowthPaths_241147/]
            
        
        
                    
                        Have you completed a Growth Path? Post here!
                        
                    
                    
                
                        by SoulfullyAButterfly
                    
                
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March 19th, 2023
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                Growth Paths at 7 Cups offer an opportunity to literally work on growing, in different ways, one step at a time!
Have you recently completed a growth path? Use this thread to share your experience!
Name the Growth Path you took - consider giving a shout out to its creator/builder here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/ProjectsEvents_184/GrowthPathExperiences_2240/AppreciatingGrowthPathExpertsandCreators_244577/].
Please answer the following questions in regards to the Path you have completed:
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How much time did you commit to using the growth path?
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What was the most helpful thing you learned from this Path?
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Describe the Path you took in 3 words. 
            
                
                
        
                    
                        Appreciating Growth Path Experts and Creators! 
                        
                    
                    
                
                        by SoulfullyAButterfly
                    
                
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November 27th, 2021
                    November 27th, 2021
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                Have you recently completed a growth path? Use this thread to appreciate the efforts of everyone on the "team" towards improvement - we want to give a shout-out to every expert, growth path creator/builder as well as every member who join us in the growth journey at 7 Cups!
You can view path creators/builders on the path preview pages of the Community Paths [https://www.7cups.com/path/modifier/community].
            
                
                
        
                    
                        growth path findished trigger warning
                        
                    
                    
                
                        by stormieandpaws
                    
                
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January 31st
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                we wanted to share a growth path we finished. when we started our healing journey  a friend  who a social  worker and survivor  herself of abuse. she been helping us for years online. she asked us a question that we had to think on many times over the years.
her question was why do you not move away from family. this set us on a growth  path. it taken us  little less then 20 years to finish this growth path and many many times questioning her question.
at first our answer was we can not leave mom we to be there emotionally support her. she needs us to be there for her. if we leave move away she feel abandoned again. we just can not do that to her. we even at first did not believe she was abusive.
well years went by we was able to  see she was abusive and even toxic to us. but we still stayed due to she needed us. we learned about codependency  and few other things related to that. also distorted  thinking  ways.
well in may 2017 we made the big move out of daily abuse. we moved to a new city we did not know at all. learned to use the city buses to get around. this gave us freedom from daily abuse.
we also started setting better healthy boundaries. we only kelp in connected with parents mostly by phone. but for first few years we allowed mom to come stay with us for week at a time. we learned a lot more about our childhood that she had said did not happen. we feel due to age and well her health she was feeling need to tell us before she passed. she also know God and believes in Him so yes she could have did it out of fear of what was going to happen after she died. but even in this she made excuses for dad. oldest brother and herself. she say that she did best job she could with what she had.  but we was blessed she did that  too.
well we also would tell her when on phone if we said stop she would get 3 warning then we hang up. after we did this 4 times she started to listen.
we came a long way in our healing journey  this was a very very very big step for us. yes  at times would felt guilty for moving. but now we do not feel that way as it the best thing we could have ever  done for our self. life is now  free from daily abuse first time in life. but getting use to this too.
so finished  this growth path feel good about it too
            
        
        
                    
                        Let's check-in together!
                        
                    
                    
                
                        by amicableox0685
                    
                
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November 20th, 2024
                    November 20th, 2024
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                Hello I hope you all are having a good day😊. Today I just wanted to make things simple on myself and hopefully others by asking how did today go?
If it was good, what did you do to make it good🤲?
If it was challenging, what are things you've done in the past to make it less stressful💪?
Have a blessed one!
            
        
        
                    
                        path away from not being someone to being seen for being someone
                        
                    
                    
                
                        by stormieandpaws
                    
                
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October 30th, 2024
                    October 30th, 2024
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                this may seem  crazy to more, but it what we have lived. seem like all my life i was not allowed to be a full person. seem like i was  just seen as my mom daughter  and my brothers sister. many did not call me by my name at all. some even thought i was just like my mom with her likes and dislikes. no one asked me  what i personally liked and dislikes. this made me feel like i was  no one at all.
may 2017  i moved to different  city in same state. first time in my life  i been not close to were my  family  lives. so people now here know me as me call me by name. even ask questions about my likes and dislikes. this even after more then 7yr still feel odd, but to others it be normal to  have name used and asked questions about self. not even sure why it just feel odd to me. here i living free from  them who abused me. not even  hear from family members much.
but i also find myself at times lost to what i like and dislike it just so new to me still. feel kinda crazy writing this out even most would know answers to what they truly like and dislike but i question that a lot
            
        
        
                    
                        Embracing Endings: Finding beauty in sunsets
                        
                    
                    
                
                        by Ubebe
                    
                
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March 10th, 2024
                    March 10th, 2024
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                If someone asked me if I'm more of a sunrise or sunset person, I'd definitely go with sunrise. There's just something about the fresh start and potential of a new day that gets me excited. Sunsets, on the other hand, used to make me feel kind of sad. They reminded me that things were ending, and I wasn't a fan of that.
But lately, I've been thinking differently. I've realized that endings aren't all bad. In fact, they can be pretty beautiful in their own way. It's taken me some time, but I've come to accept that some things and some people and even aspects of my former self just won't be around forever. And you know what? That's okay.
Now when I see a sunset, I see it as a reminder of all the good times and experiences I've had. It's like a celebration of the journey, with all its ups and downs. Sure, it's bittersweet, but there's a certain kind of magic in watching the sky light up with those warm, vibrant colors.
So yeah, maybe I'm still more of a sunrise person at heart, but I've definitely learned to appreciate the beauty in a good sunset. It's all part of this crazy thing we call life, and I'm just trying to soak it all in.
            
                
                
        
                    
                        The Simple Things
                        
                    
                    
                
                        by imaginaryfriends
                    
                
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January 9th, 2024
                    January 9th, 2024
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                Today I got really stressed about making my bed simple things like making my bed or making food are challenging for me for some reason but after the stressful episode I got ahold of a friend and messaged them as I did it and I completed it we had a small celebration and it made me really happy
            
        
        
                    
                        Create a forum post
                        
                    
                    
                
                        by Gettingbettertoday
                    
                
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November 24th, 2023
                    November 24th, 2023
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                "Members report that participating in the community has given them extra confidence, support and helped them make new friendships. Create a forum post in any community."
Extra Confidence: No
Support: Efforts made
New Friends: What is a friend?
            
        
        
                    
                        Progress Matters - No Matter How Small!
                        
                    
                    
                
                        by IamtheBat
                    
                
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November 24th, 2023
                    November 24th, 2023
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                my experiences here as a listener over the last 8 or so years gave me 2 very important things to perceive life with
1. you can always choose to avoid facing your fears, but all that will lead to, is the inevitable end of facing the fear with more doubt, more regret, and more delay
2. facing your fears, be it your past or anything else, every single day, means that also brings you one day closer, to the end of it
3. Progress, no matter how small, matters! no matter if the step was too big or too small, as long as you are better off than yesterday, that is what truly matters. The world needs the best version of you, you owe that, to yourself
            
        
        
                    
                        Growth path 
                        
                    
                    
                
                        by TheTinkerofminds
                    
                
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April 21st, 2023
                    April 21st, 2023
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                Making this for growth path 34
            
        
        
                    
                        Share your learning: Learning Leadership Growth Path
                        
                    
                    
                
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March 30th, 2023
                    March 30th, 2023
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                Click 'Start Path' after opening the following path link. After you've walked the path, share your 5 key learnings from the path in reply to this thread.
https://www.7cups.com/path/playlist/learning-leadership/ [https://www.7cups.com/path/playlist/learning-leadership/]
Let's learn leadership together!
            
        
        
                    
                        Have you completed a Growth Path? Post here!
                        
                    
                    
                
                        by SoulfullyAButterfly
                    
                
                        Last post
March 19th, 2023
                    March 19th, 2023
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                Growth Paths at 7 Cups offer an opportunity to literally work on growing, in different ways, one step at a time!
Have you recently completed a growth path? Use this thread to share your experience!
Name the Growth Path you took - consider giving a shout out to its creator/builder here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/ProjectsEvents_184/GrowthPathExperiences_2240/AppreciatingGrowthPathExpertsandCreators_244577/].
Please answer the following questions in regards to the Path you have completed:
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How much time did you commit to using the growth path?
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What was the most helpful thing you learned from this Path?
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Describe the Path you took in 3 words. 
            
                
                
        
                    
                        Paths' length 
                        
                    
                    
                
                        by indigoTortoise3129
                    
                
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February 27th, 2023
                    February 27th, 2023
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                Hello,
I am new to the paths and I am trying to understand how they work. The ones I am using (Managing Emotions f.e.) seem to go on for a long number of steps (I am at 58) and at some point they start just repeating the exercises.
If I "switch path" they don't reset, but just keep going, e.g. I'd start from step 59 of the new path.
Can you guide me? I have a premium membership, if that helps clarifying.
Thank you!
            
        
        
                    
                        Step 11
                        
                    
                    
                
                        by happychipmunk
                    
                
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December 16th, 2022
                    December 16th, 2022
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                Ok, my step 11 (now 14) is to get a long term listener. It has a link to a forum post. But there is no way to move past the step. If I click the button above I can do something else, but my next step is always to get a long term Listener. However here's the thing, I have a long term listener, I've posted on the forum twice and even talked with other non-long term listeners. I've up voted there post. I've done all I can to move on, but my growth step remains the same. What does this thing need me to do, I don't get it?