I'm trouble for how I feel.
It's all in the title, how do I communicate my feelings to my girl without it being weaponized and used against me. Haven't had much luck on other forums. Here's hoping you guys can help enlighten me.
@Loafboat
Have you used the "i feel Statements" I know it sounds too simple but this way you can express how you feel with out her becoming defensive and argue.
In my relationship my partner often resorts to playing the victim and claiming i blame them etc.
When i used the "i feel... you resort to say items when we argue to just end the discussion not resolve anything"....when they claimed i was blaming i reminded "NO i was telling you how I FEEL " "so if you are saying my feelings are right or wrong?" ...
this makes them have to think about the discussion and not resort to same circle arguments that we avoid and have again and again.
