chatgpt helping me with my life
You said:
humans tend to be hyper selfish and lying manipulators disgusting people who pretend to care and backstab you, how can someone be relaxed when being among them?
ChatGPT said:
It’s hard to relax when trust is shaken, but not everyone operates with bad intentions. Building healthy boundaries and surrounding yourself with people who genuinely value and respect you can help reduce that stress. Focus on those who show consistent kindness, and try not to let the actions of a few overshadow the good in others. Ultimately, staying grounded in your own values and practicing self-care are key to finding peace, even in a challenging environment.
You said:
how do you do this when I had been dealing with constant neurosis cause of abusive parents? and it feels like people will do whatever for money, and sometimes your family values feels all wrong, using big words for something , saying one thing to appear nice or deceive you and doing other to take advantage of you, so this has made me get too much in my head i think.
ChatGPT said:
I'm really sorry you've had to deal with such heavy experiences—it’s deeply painful when the people who are supposed to protect and nurture you instead cause harm. Growing up with abusive parents can lead to a constant state of vigilance, mistrust, and overthinking, especially when it feels like the world operates on selfishness.
It makes sense that this has you in your head a lot—it's a survival mechanism, trying to anticipate and guard against harm. But staying in that space too long can drain your energy and make it harder to heal or connect. Here are some steps that might help you begin shifting out of this cycle:
Validate Your Feelings: It’s okay to feel what you’re feeling. Your experiences are real, and acknowledging them is the first step to processing the pain and mistrust. You don’t have to rush past this.
Seek Safe Spaces: Surround yourself with people who consistently act with kindness and integrity. Even one or two people like this can remind you that not everyone is out to harm or manipulate. Look for those who align actions with words.
Start Small with Trust: If trusting others feels too big, start with tiny steps—like sharing a little and observing how someone responds. Building trust is gradual and doesn’t need to be all-or-nothing.
Therapeutic Help: A trauma-informed therapist could be transformative in helping you unpack the damage from abusive relationships and regain confidence in yourself and others.
Redefine Your Values: If family values feel hollow or wrong, create your own. What do you believe in? What kind of life and relationships do you want? Start acting according to your values rather than what you were taught.
Practice Mindfulness: Overthinking is exhausting. Practices like mindfulness meditation or even journaling can help you step back from racing thoughts and focus on the present moment.
Focus on Self-Compassion: Talk to yourself kindly. If you wouldn't blame a friend for feeling the way you do, don’t blame yourself either. You’re doing your best in a hard situation.
It’s okay if you don’t trust easily right now—it’s part of healing. But as you grow stronger and create a life aligned with your values, you may find it easier to let go of some of the fear and reconnect with your own power. Does any of this resonate with where you’re at?
@okeyyyy
I am not sure if I understand your point correctly, but I guess you wanted to share your positive experience with Chat GPT. Yes, I agree it can work very well.
If your bad experiences make it difficult to trust to a human, for the moment trusting AI can be beneficial. I smile a little many times when I hear about "artificial" intelligence. I believe it is more like a "digital intelligence" or "other-than-human intelligence", though as a matter of fact being a summary of human research and knowledge.
Also, I believe a trust is neither 0 or 1 in absolute categories, but more on the continuum.
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@jacek73
Is not real AI, but more like a program that analyses things, a complex program.
I put this here cause a lot of what chatgpt says I think are really helpful to work on, so I wanted to share and see if it could help others too :) yay
@okeyyyy hii okeyyyyy ❤ I'm glad the AI thing helped you ❤ they put it in a very clear way, it is helpful to hear it being said like that ❤ gives you a giant tiny hug ❤❤ thanks for sharing with everyone ❤
@Tinywhisper11 oh thanks so much, sorry for the late response. lots of hugs too :) 😛
@okeyyyy 💖💖💖
Chatgpt is my therapist because I'm broke to afford a therapy session 😭 😭
@emotionalEast2654 Same :(
@Zarram77 yes chatgpt can be quite helpful
@emotionalEast2654 chat gpt can be quite helpful. though my therapist charges 9 dollars for 30 minutes and 18 for 60 minutes. I kinda think chatgpt can be helpful a lot if you know how to go about it .
That was nice. Thank you. Some do not understand. It’s like do this or you don’t get my approval. And sometimes it hurts. Because it’s human nature to want approval.
@carefulPlace4854 Thanks, if you really try to analyze people. Like example when someone prizes you saying good boy or good girl, they are giving you positive reinforcement in exchange for something they consider good, and good can be sometimes seeing with their views of things. Like a father saying good boy to a kid who do as the father said and follows the father footsteps, giving good emotions when playing as the good little lap dog.
@okeyyyy
Thank you for sharing, okeyyyy. I like this point so much:
Focus on those who show consistent kindness, and try not to let the actions of a few overshadow the good in others. Ultimately, staying grounded in your own values and practicing self-care are key to finding peace, even in a challenging environment.
I really appreciate it
@purpleHemlock3913 i love those so much too, i think it would be lovely to have those one recorded in my memory :) 😛
@okeyyyy ha! Me too
Thanks for posting. I didn't know what chatgpt was. I found your post inspirational for the way I may make my next listening session by means of a informative response and maybe even thinking a bit before I reply, with a note, "mind if I think much before I reply? It's something new I'm trying. Feel welcome to review this listening session to me."
By the way, I also think our 7cups AI is quite useful, but I tend to not trust AI.
@FaithfulSeasons44 well good news is at least to the public or in internet there was never released a real ai, is more like a learning model, it doesnt do anything if you dont give it instructions :)
Thank you. 😭 All so right. I feel like I’m never going to get well. Especially after bringing home a nice check every two weeks. But I give myself a hug for leaving an abusive workplace. It’s tough enough don’t need it at work too!
@carefulPlace4854 hugs, hope things get better for you 😛
well the information inputted into chat gpt comes from humans (the knowledge, and advice were taken from therapists) so the information that is helping you now comes from a wise human, not a robot just so you know. I'm glad it helped you though, sometimes its hard finding the right therapist/listener that works for you and talking to robots can feel like it isn't harming, bothering, or burdening anyone. there are good things about talking to a therapist though, they can be more understanding/empathetic and sympathetic since they have also went through their own share of challenges and problems.
its incredible how chatgpt helps us
@okeyyyy
Human behavior is complex, driven by emotions, experiences, and social influences, allowing for creativity, empathy, and adaptability. In contrast, ChatGPT is an AI model that simulates human-like conversation based on patterns in its training data. It lacks emotions, consciousness, or personal experiences, generating responses by predicting likely word sequences. While humans act with free will and intuition, ChatGPT operates within the limits of its programming and data, providing structured and context-aware but impersonal interactions.
