How do you prioritise?? any input appreciated ❤️
There are so many little things to do on a daily basis, I’m amazed there are people who know what to do most of the time. I’m always ending up in choice paralysis and then walking away from the task in a bizarre anxious haze.
I sometimes feel terrible because it’s so simple for everyone else I know but difficult for me… things like: “do I wash my hair or finish this paperwork first? Or should I do the laundry? Or should I call my gran first?” Tiny decisions like this seem to stress me out to the point I just freeze. I’m trying to be nicer to myself about this because I’ve got so frustrated with my inability before that it’s led to so much hurt.
**The only method I seem to find is the Eisenhower matrix - this has never worked for me because 99% of my tasks all fall into the same category OR I’m so unaware of how to judge the urgency and importance of my tasks that I put them in the wrong one.
Ahhhh!! I would love to know your thoughts, or if you can relate ❤️xx
@SwanOfAges
Great question, and in my opinion, I think because our minds are working so fast all the time, we tend to think quickly of all the things all at once. This leads to choice overload, which then leads to functional freeze. It's like that meme that shows all the things a person needs to do, but then they just end up taking a nap instead. I think that sums it up well.
Putting the brakes on the constant stream of consciousness in our heads is what needs addressing. So how can we do that? You can use medication, mindfulness or a combination of these two. There is evidence-based research to back up both of these methods.
Thank you for your thoughts 🙂🤍
@SwanOfAges
I'm a constant procrastinator and chooice paralysis is my mortal enemy but sometimes I get lucky because I remember how much easier it is to decide when I just talk to myself out loud. It's so silly and probably not for everyone especially if you have roommates that judge you but simply talking out loud, in the mirror, recording on your phone, whatever! "I need to do my laundry I should probably put that away I can also do the dishes but which should I do first but also have those papers to do and should probably also work out... what is the first thing that could most benefit me right now? Working out might feel good but is that really important? I think I should get the clothes off my floor okay I'm going to do that right now and I'm going to keep talking to myself while I do it I'm just going to keep doing it" and once you get started on a task it's 100% easier. Hope this helps!
Oh that’s a good one!! I’ll definitely try this because I do have an outdoor space I could do this without judgement. Thank you ❣️❣️
omg my former roommate struggling with ADHD used to do that as well, she'd say the same things for word for word! my other roommate would be like "why is she speaking alone😂" but I genuinely found her enthusiasm cute and refreshing. hearing about her cooking or cleaning her stuff made me want to do it with her as well, fun times.