My bf has a porn addiction
We were doing really well talking about his addiction everyday coming up with coping skills, how to make our relationship stronger, me being support for when he’s having a rough time. But with work and life we just got out of that routine. I haven’t talked to him about it because when I do now it’s like he puts up this wall and I feel like he just says what I want to hear. I’ve been supportive and I try to make it easy for him to talk to me about this bc I want to be someone he can come and talk to but now he doesn’t anymore. I think he started watching again and I don’t know how to bring it up or talk to him about it at this point. His porn addiction has lead to some really scary things (what he looks at wise) and I don’t want it to get back to that point. I love him and I’m not going to leave him bc he means more to me than anything but it’s really messed with my mental health and how I view myself, feeling like I’m not good enough. Even when we have sex I just want it to stop because I don’t feel like I’m what he really wants. I’m just having a really hard time and I feel like I have too much that I’m trying to figure out by myself and I need help.
I think you deserve someone better who can treat you in a right way.
Hi girly im in the same boat. He's addicted to the release. When he gets in that mindset its like his mind shuts down and he will do anything to get to that point
I totally hear you girl :( I just joined this app to find someone who can relate to my situation. I’d love to talk about this with you if you are open to it.
The reason I came here too. Just need to talk to someone who knows what it feels like
this post was a while ago but im here to talk too. send a message
I can tell you because I am the porn addict and my wife has been the one dealing with it , it’s very shameful and we feel very judged by our significant other when questions arise or even just having a talk about it is very stress inducing and hard to cope with . Maybe he is watching again but also maybe he isn’t . Just know ladies and believe it’s very hard on the guy to . And talking about it isn’t just easy for us. That may not help you at all and I can’t even put into word how it feels to be the addicted one tryin to break free of it or come clean about it or talk about it . Or how judged, shamed , or even we feel we are looked at by you for it .. I know Everytime something remotely sexual on tv , or words or underwear adds I feel like the wife is digging her eyes into me like I’m gonna have some sort of hulk like reaction to it . It’s embarrassing is what it is .
@linkbektoperator18 Do you actually get that hulk like reaction? Is it really limited to watching porn vs wanting something other than what you may have in front of you?
I am also a porn addict. Yes...it is shameful. Deep down I mean no disrespect towards my partner but I just can't stop it.
As someone who has been watching porn all my life and still have a great sexual relationship with my 4 year girlfriend. Porn alot of times let's me fill fantasies that are unrealistic for real life. I personally think it's an issue if he is ignoring you or replacing you with porn. This may be a hot take but I wish the best for you. You aren't competing with porn your coexisting with it. As tech gets better you can create your perfect fantasy in 4K in seconds. It's scary but true. Best of luck
I have been having the same issue... I am a porn addict which I can't get rid of cause of severe lack of sexual intimacy with my wife many years now (35M-32F)... She states she's not that much into sex or ever was but I recall before our kids and the problems with our parents, the first few months we got together she was so into it... I have been struggling to provide distance between her and our parents to help her quite a few years now but she's changed mindset not giving me ANY credit for all sacrifices I have made and blaming me for everything...
Earlier in our relationship I used to casually watch porn because we were getting it from each other (bout once a week - her choice) but as problems grew bigger and she didn't do anything to manage her feelings (discuss with me... Take measures together... Seek professional help...) I only found solace in porn... Now... Just steps away from separation and she's pushing it like *** almost costing me my mental health I wait for her to go out with her male friends and I relieve myself watching porn... Like being a thief in my own house...
Sexual intimacy is not something to be taken lightly for us males.... Else you just accuse us of being perverts rather than going up against the root of this... Sounds much easier... Right?