Stereotypes don’t help
I’ve got a listener who tells me I need to be more open and go outside. Do you people really think every guy struggling with a relationship is at home all day? They were not at the gym ir store? That we aren’t getting dressed up so we can run off in a panic attack?
Who’s doing our shopping for us?
ever think maybe we go to the movies alone? Go to Starbucks alone? The library alone? That we do try to break out of our comfort zones for absolutely nothing to happen so we say “*** it” because if we wanted to be miserable, lonely, and have no *** friends we could do that at home? Clearly not.
just like how we don’t speak English and we can read your minds. Stupid *** like this is why I can’t make a Reddit account at all and I fully see myself getting fully banned here too if that’s how you people view anxiety.
out here wanting some John wick *** without thinking how it’s gonna impact someone’s adrenaline or put them on edge. Not giving a *** about anyone but yourself but wondering why guys like me don’t just open up to you. What happens when we do though? You minimize that ***. I become completely wrong. I become some perpetual and professional victim.
and most the time you don’t even *** know what you want anyway. Sit here and tell people to shoot for friendships then get mad they wanted in your pants. Try to make *** as hard and awkward as *** then wonder why people who’ve been isolated due to all the drug addicts and felons they grew up with dying or disappearing don’t want *** from you.
I was thinking about leaving my house again in futility, but *** it. I’m not doing ***. I’ll keep not doing *** and getting banned from every internet platform possible because people think it’s a *** joke outliving everyone you grew up with before you’re *** 40, and women who don’t look your way at all are supposedly flocking over you because all they want is a nice guy. Nah. They don’t know what the *** they want. You can be nice, quiet, shy, dress nice, and get *** nowhere because they don’t treat you like a *** human, and then blame you anyway.
*** this
They really told me I’d be a main character and acted like I’ve never gone outside. Guess that’s why I’ve got selfies with a 4x kickboxing world champion, and pics of me in class with a former UFC Heavyweight champion. Cause I never leave my house. Holy ***. You figured it out. We all got the same problem and we’re all Bo *** Burnham.
cause we all got the privilege to be rich and survive in our bubbles. Like I’d want *** to do with people in general anyway. It’s almost hilarious how bad people are at sizing someone up. I can casually squat, bench, and leg press more than you. My cardio is likely better than you’d assume too.
You people are delusional and I was the one forced into a mental hospital for like a month for being out of touch with reality.
not like I’m out here with a GED cause I fought once a week in school all the way up to my first semester of 9th grade. They finally kicked me out at that point for finishing too many fights that other people started over stupid *** like racism or not talking to girls way better off than me. Thought my lisp, clothes, and “anger problems” were funny too until the teacher had to pull me off them.
why tf would someone like that have anxiety though when everything is their fault and they’re the only ones getting punished for everything?
suppose as an adult I should be out here sagging my pants and carrying a gun so it’s obvious how I grew up instead of trying to show people the sort of patience I never saw. Instead of busting my *** off so maybe kids in tough neighborhoods can see a positive example of a legit stick in the mud.
I don’t even know if I know anyone who could be a security guard because you need a high school diploma. Issues with felonies and stuff aside.
the *** really needs to stop.
@pioneeringWriter9271
You seemed to have mentioned a bunch of issues here. But mainly:
1) You're upset that a listener is telling you to go outside when you already do
2) You're upset at people in general, women especially, because they don't seem to look your way no matter how nice you try to be and how well you present yourself out there
I'm just trying to break this down so that I understand. I see that you do go outside and do things outside. Obviously, meeting someone organically is not as easy as just stepping out of your house. You can be the most active person in the world, out and about, 24/7 and still struggle to meet people.
So... Have you asked yourself inwardly what may be causing women to look the other way? Sometimes it's so easy to see all the things that we're doing right that it's also so easy to miss what things we may be doing wrong/what we tend to do that turn people off. It's not your fault at all, it's a common flaw we have as humans.
Always reflect not just on your good qualities but also the bad ones. Every day is a day we get to know ourselves better. If we cannot be honest with the rest of the world, the very least we can do is be honest with ourselves.
Take it easy bro. It's all gonna be alright.
Because yeah, I want a relationship. But I didn’t get where I am playing games or relying on my heritage or anything else. I got here out of sheer spire and anger. I busted my *** off when others would’ve given up.
they wanna play childish *** they can go somewhere else. I’ll happily be forever alone if that’s what I’ve got going for me. People hold others to a higher standard than they hold themselves and then act shocked/confused when this *** happens.
*** good though
Lastly, it was the listener who told me they’d magically notice me and I’d be a main character due to how hard I work. Yeah, because that happens. People notice hard work. That’s why as a self taught hacker who ran with anonymous during the Arab spring I’ll be a teacher instead of an engineer. Even have recruiter from City Teacher Alliance wanting to talk next week.
because people notice hard work. They notice it when you put it out into the world via LinkedIn, your own website, GitHub, etc. success never comes from *** luck. Ever.
oh wait. They didn’t notice. They don’t notice the self playing games that can beat humans, the software in various languages, and Mozilla contribution before I had my GED or actually knew python.
and if recruiters or other people aren’t noticing women definitely won’t notice or give a ***. But I’m supposed to believe otherwise because women want to live in fairytales regarding how they treat men and calling it out is somehow aggressive. But as a native male I can watch my culture being erased and history being rewritten to exclude us, and I’m supposed to be silent as it happens because that’s *** equality.
honestly, if it were up to me I’d go back to cutting like I was in my stories on ***. But let’s be honest, people have a fetish for misery and they’ll “save” me yet again. Who cares if it’d destroy absolutely every opportunity like last time? I’m still breathing and apparently that alone is good enough.
it wouldn’t be if some things were different, but they aren’t.
so yes, I am angry at people in general and at women, and my listener. *** mostly adrenaline because I’ve spent almost all day today sleeping due to an adrenaline dump. Swear to god you people want to defend the most *** you possibly can like it’s a *** fetish for you.
Oh, they aren’t necessarily looking the other way. I’ve lost jobs because they talk to their friends and not me. The other day I had two girls awkwardly follow me out to the parking lot.
i wish they would look the other way because they cause all sorts of problems when they don’t.
i had a good job in a warehouse for a major hospital chain in the state. Megan decided to tell all her friends other than me that she liked me. When word finally got around I was being mocked all fo ***, and when I had a stroke due to a birth defect they were happy to get rid of me. I was a high performing worker.
and that’s after I told her how a cheerleader in HS caused problems for me by assuming i speak very basic English on the basis of being a man. Another example of a girl who went to her friends instead of me, and we fought so much I ended up with a GED… in my late 20s. The silver lining is one of them died a few years ago in his 30s.
Couldn’t even work at my tribes casino without women trying to cause problems. They’d spread ***, had all sorts of rumors just cause I happened to remember a girls name. Yeah, she was cute, but she was also like half my *** age.
why are they looking the other way? They don’t. But they don’t say *** either. I do. Because I grew up poor and had to fight for what I’ve got. I do because I don’t have the bandwidth for ***. Then they look the other way assuming im gay or some *** and find a way to *** *** up for someone just trying to make a living for himself, so people can cause problems and make *** worse. Because that helps.
*** if they really get off on terrorizing people that *** badly, but they could go somewhere else and I wish they would. Because otherwise all they’re gonna do is cause problems and pretend shirs cute. Then you’re gonna get white knights who defend that ***.