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Men's Issues Automated Taglist
by tommy
Last post
 February 1st
...See more Welcome to the Men's Issues Taglist This thread is an auto-updating list. The list is regularly updated by forum leaders and can be found below. Having issues? Reply to this thread and someone will help you! Why should I join the taglist? ✔ Never miss out on sub-community check-ins, discussions or events ✔ Get tagged and notified by community leaders whenever a new relevant thread has been posted ✔ Become a more active member of the community. What do I need to do? ✅ To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please add me. ❌ To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please remove me. ------------------------- Current taglist
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A new Men's Issues Community already working!
by jacek73
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Hello Everybody 😊  I am not sure how exactly it works here (so I am sorry in case I did anything not very recommended), but I really disliked seeing the blank space in this Community we needed - and this message is to let you know that thanks to some efforts by many good people here at 7 Cups the Men's Issues section is already open! 😊  Despite the popular myth about men, we are not all "alpha males". We, men, are sometimes open and talkative, sometimes intelligent, sometimes thoughtful and sometimes very sensitive. We are not indifferent and we care about our lives, our partners, our children, our friends and other people around. We believe it is not the power or violence, but wisdom and love that make us men. Certainly, this Community is also not going to be any "men vs. the rest of the world" debate, because beside the qualities described above I believe we also tend to be self-critical, too 😉  Also, sometimes we suffer from feelings that may have their sources in events buried deep in the past. We are strong, but not indestructible. Some of us might have lost their fathers or haven't known them at all. For some of us our fathers have been alive, but not emotionally available or not setting a good example, so the only parents we have really known were our mothers or grandparents. We are humans, so we may suffer from things like depression, grief, fear or anxiety. And some of them may be connected to us trying to fulfil our positive roles in this world as men, fathers, brothers, sons or husbands, to some specific feelings we have as a result of our experiences and specific events or traumas we have been going through. I believe this is what Men's Issues Community on 7 Cups forums might be all about...
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Can't find a place in this world
by rationalFarm4162
Last post
 Friday
...See more I'm everybody's friend but at the end of the day I'm always on my own. Too shy and insecure to find someone willing to stay with me and every attempt at trying to improve this situation ends up making my insecurities worse due to the lack of positive outcomes. Don't know what to do, I spotted working on friday cause it just seems pointless.
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Why does this always happen to me?
by rationalFarm4162
Last post
 Thursday
...See more Everytime I meet someone I like and we're into each other we start seeing each others for a while and I do my best to be open about my feelings, to make her feel welcome and safe but then in the end I always get told "sorry I don't see you that way, you're a good friend to me". I don't have a problem with having female friends but damn I'm 28 and never been in a relationship. I thought that I'd be more successful with the last encounter as she told me that she's looking for someone to settle down with, but despite treating her as I would with a potential future wife, in the end she told me that I'm like her brother now. I'm really not one of those people who hate all women as a result of rejection. I despise people like Andrew tate and I actively advocate against them in my community, but sometimes it really seems that it's true that in order to have a woman want you, you have to treat her badly.
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I Feel Ostracized, Alienated, and Alone
by TerryTHEwonderer
Last post
 Tuesday
...See more Ok First, I just want to say that I haven’t been on 7 Cups for a while, and I was surprised to see that there is a men’s issues section. I feel compelled to come here and talk about my feelings since I am a man, and I believe that many of the issues I’m experiencing stem from that fact. I have a lot on my chest that I don’t feel comfortable expressing on any other platform. It really bothers me that I’ve come back to this mental health platform, 7 Cups, which I consider to be garbage, but I don’t have anywhere else to turn to so it is what it is, I guess. I feel ostracized, alienated, and alone. I don’t have any friends and struggle to make them in the first place. I don’t have a good history with friendships either, and on top of that, I’m going through family issues as well. I really don’t feel like I have anyone I can turn to-anyone I feel comfortable or safe confiding in. There’s no one I truly trust. I have no sense of companionship, which is one of the reasons I turned to online platforms and social media (mostly ***) in search of connection or friendship. Unfortunately, I haven’t had any luck or good experiences there either. I’ve run into a lot of toxicity, negative people, and harmful atmospheres, and I think it’s only worsened my mental state. It’s reached a point where I even feel threatened when I do get a response or feedback from someone. Whenever I try to establish a friendship online, it doesn’t lead anywhere. I’m tired of always being the initiator putting in effort and getting nothing in return. It feels like no one is putting in the same work I am, and nobody cares enough to check in on me or see if I’m okay, and I know I can’t be exaggerating either cause if I were a woman I would get people calling and texting me without me even asking wanting to talk like how both my Mom and Aunt receive. Something that I’ve noticed. The truth is, I’m not okay. I’ve been dealing with nothing but problems and nonsense for a very long time now, and even therapy doesn’t seem to be working or helping. I hate this. As a man, I feel like I have no place in society no sense of belonging or connection anywhere. As for women, I haven’t had good experiences with them either. I do not trust women at all and am very wary of them. At this point, I don’t want to be lumped in with the actions of other men simply because of my gender. Both online and offline, I constantly hear that men are the problem that everything wrong with society is men’s fault. That men are the root cause of all evil. Somehow, it’s all MY FAULT!. I didn’t choose or ask to be male. Women didn’t ask to be born female either, right? So why should that be held against me? I have done nothing wrong to women. I have never acted with bad intent toward them. In fact, I go out of my way to avoid them. And honestly, I’d recommend that any man do the same. If you’re a man, just being near a woman is enough to make them uncomfortable. Just standing next to them is enough to make you a threat in their eyes. That’s how it feels. Society demonizes and vilifies me simply for existing as a man. Because of this, I avoid women whenever possible. But it’s getting to the point where I’m completely fed up and sick of women entirely. I feel like I’m drowning in an empty void, and I don’t know if I can crawl back from it. I’m just sick and tired of everything at this point.
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Stop neglecting men
by crimsonFarm7320
Last post
 Tuesday
...See more I helped create the now “men’s issues” group here a couple months ago on a different account. I deleted that account after enough frustration with people and listeners on here. I created one again because I need to voice this deeply troubling issue with the over arching 7 cups community and our contemporary culture more generally. STOP NEGLECTING MEN. We find it very easy to point out “insecure men”(which btw what a crazy way to generalize a group you’ve vilified in your head), but men have such a broad range of experience, trauma, and struggles that generalizing what men are and aren’t allowed to feel is deplorable and it’s something I see from EVERYONE. People who consider themselves “good people” people who are actively pursuing mental healthcare opportunities… everyone is refusing to empathize with men and boys who are being abused, neglected, isolated, bullied, etc. and I’m honestly pretty angry about it. I’ve been through many therapists in my efforts to deal with this who are also guilty. Men themselves are guilty of this issue. We have no system by which we can look at a man struggling and empathize with what he’s going through. I’m deeply disappointed in everyone on this site who has contributed to this. I’d put this on the men’s issues thread but then you wouldn’t read it and you’d go about your life assuming there’s nothing to worry about. I’m begging at this point. SOMETHING HAS TO CHANGE.
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Hypersexuality
by KhaiLacey04
Last post
 March 3rd
...See more Hey, just wanted to see if there was anyone dealing with the same issues I am. I’m a 20-year-old male quite attractive straight, Good job money anything I can ask for but I simply cannot come and all I wanna do is the most kinky *** but That’s not how I view myself and then I’ll just watch the weirdest porn And honestly, I have a lot of like women ways of thinking like super manipulative not to be rude at all and just like yeah the way I do like sex and masturbation I’m super super casual and I haven’t met any guys without a ego really like myself
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Testosterone Replacement Therapy
by Mezmer
Last post
 February 19th
...See more First off, I'd like to say that I'm happy to see a men's community up and running. That's great! We men sometimes need a safe space of our own.  So, recently I've been feeling very low. Very stressed, irritable, lacking motivation and just generally in a fog. I got some blood tests done and found out my testosterone and vitamin D levels were scarcely low. My doctor prescribed me testosterone replacement to improve my levels. I'm excited at the possibility to get back to feeling the old me.  Has anyone had any experience with trt?
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I'm not a man yet
by andrewtan99
Last post
 February 18th
...See more Trigger Warning - Sexual Assault I'm not a man yet, but I was sexually harassed by a girl who is about one year older than me. I felt uncomfortable and said no but she still touched me. I didn't smile or laugh during the process except I laughed when she touche day tickle spot. I felt uncomfortable but she didn't stop there, she continued until I ejaculated and was tired and continued. She ask for my consent and even though I said no she did it anyways, and trying to convince me to have sex but I didn't feel wanting to have sex either. I just wanted her to stop asking. I tried hugging her but she said it wasn't enough. She shamed me for not being man enough, not being a normal sexuality person. I feel bad. 😞
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I'm trouble for how I feel.
by Loafboat
Last post
 February 15th
...See more It's all in the title, how do I communicate my feelings to my girl without it being weaponized and used against me. Haven't had much luck on other forums. Here's hoping you guys can help enlighten me.
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Constant tinnitus at the age of 20
by Shao997
Last post
 February 3rd
...See more I am just seeking for a conversation with someone that has a same problem as me. I don't know how to live with it
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Men's Issues Automated Taglist
by tommy
Last post
 February 1st
...See more Welcome to the Men's Issues Taglist This thread is an auto-updating list. The list is regularly updated by forum leaders and can be found below. Having issues? Reply to this thread and someone will help you! Why should I join the taglist? ✔ Never miss out on sub-community check-ins, discussions or events ✔ Get tagged and notified by community leaders whenever a new relevant thread has been posted ✔ Become a more active member of the community. What do I need to do? ✅ To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please add me. ❌ To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please remove me. ------------------------- Current taglist
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Why can’t I let go of her
by tealKiwi2767
Last post
 January 27th
...See more Ok guys I need help in getting over my ex, I loved her beyond words and would have done anything for her , however though she could be loving at times she was very harsh and hurtful with her words as well as abusive both physically, emotionally and Verbally. On her worst days she made me feel like I was the worst person in the world and on her best days I was an angel. I decided to leave her even though she cried and begged but I still regret leaving her and would take her back in a heart beat. please what’s wrong with me and how can I get over this feeling?